Is it not that impossible?

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I have been told i am a very good mianipulator.

is not impossible for someone with AS to be good at manipulating.

I've been told that I am manipulative as well. It's just a myth. People with AS can be pathological liers and manipulative litlte back stabers. AS isn't synomous with sainthood.

My girlfriend often complains about manipulation as well. She thinks I do certain things to make her do things or get my way. While I just want to be left alone. Its a matter of interpretation. My girlfriend lacks ToaM (theory of autistic mind) maybe you are misunderstood as well?

I am sure I come off that way as well so that is why I need to change the way I say things and communicate so I don't come off that way. I read and realize that is the sort of behavior I do but I am not doing it to manipulate so I assume I will come off that way to other people and be described that way.

BTW my ex's thought I just chose to have anxiety to get my way but they thought it sometimes.

We're either too naive or manipulators.
My sister often manipulating me so I avoid that type of behaviour.

I can be manipulative, but I prefer not to be.

Instead, what ends up happening is this: I don't know why, but when I want someone to do something, they'll usually do it. I think it has something to do with the way I ask it. I don't try and do it in a roundabout way or anything. I ask sincerely and honestly, and I think people figure that they'd feel bad if they didn't do it because of that sincerity.

But people can end up realizing that they're not refusing my requests and come to the conclusion that I'm manipulating them.

I hate when people say I am manipulative, I dont even really know how to be.....kind of like when people call me selfish, if anything i need to be more of that because usually I am too busy thinking of everyone else, it tends to hold me back. Not that everything it holds me back from is nessisarly 'good' but still. But yeah everyone obviously has things they want and don't want and will express that.....which I do, but its not like I'm trying to manipulate but people assume that sometimes.

hahaha. "AS is not synonymous with sainthood"

It always surprises me to be told I am being manipulaitive, becuase usually when I AM trying to be manipulative, no one notices. But when I get accused of it, I am so not trying! When I get accused I am stuck in not understanding a situation, so I tend to ask a lot of questions about it to try and understand and apparently this drives NT's crazy.