How much money to spend on Valentines Day?

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29 Jan 2011, 4:20 pm

My boyfriend makes a lot more money than I do - and I know he loves to buy expensive presents, but I can't afford to.
Should I tell him we should put a limit on what we spend or what do you think?

Personally, i'd be happy with a takeaway and a DVD and no presents because the holiday has nothing but bad memories for me, but he's a total romantic.



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29 Jan 2011, 4:21 pm

I think putting a spending limit on presents is a good idea.



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29 Jan 2011, 6:30 pm

I've tried putting spending limits on these holidays but my husband exceeds that every time. I just let him do whatever he wants to do and do what I can do.



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29 Jan 2011, 6:36 pm

wefunction wrote:
I've tried putting spending limits on these holidays but my husband exceeds that every time. I just let him do whatever he wants to do and do what I can do.


I just don't want him to get offended if I can't afford such things?
Even as I type that it feels ridiculous - I know he full well wouldn't take any offence.
But when I go out to buy something that's all I think, that he'll think I don't love him. :roll:



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29 Jan 2011, 6:45 pm

Just put your heart into it and go for involved/flattering over expensive. As you suggest it I doubt he's expecting baseball season passes or anything like that from you.



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29 Jan 2011, 7:15 pm

I'm going to spend a ton...ON MYSELF!! :D

At least there's one advantage to being single... :wink:



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29 Jan 2011, 7:29 pm

Grisha wrote:
I'm going to spend a ton...ON MYSELF!! :D

At least there's one advantage to being single... :wink:

agreed. Additionally, it depends on the person. Some people will be disapointed no matter what.



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29 Jan 2011, 8:10 pm

I don't think you need to put a spending limit on things if he earns more - let him spend a lot on you as it probably makes HIM feel good to be buying you these things :D

From what I have read you say about him, I can guarantee you he won't care that you're not spending as much so don't worry

Also little things can count more. maybe make him a card or something (obviously you know yourself better than I do whether that's something he'd like or not, but as an example)

So yeah don't be bothered by how much or how little you can spend. He won't care about the money



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30 Jan 2011, 7:13 am

Yeah I told him about what I thought about it, and he just laughed and told me it was cute I worry about that and that he's going to spoil me no matter what and all he wants is that I bake him a cake :lol:
SO, i'm going to make the best cake I ever made. 8)



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30 Jan 2011, 1:13 pm

I'm not spending a dime. its a fake holiday anyways


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30 Jan 2011, 2:07 pm

£3.33 and no more


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30 Jan 2011, 2:33 pm

richardbenson wrote:
I'm not spending a dime. its a fake holiday anyways

What!? You don't believe in the power of capitalism? I swear you're getting a lump of coal in your stocking for Christmas :lol: .



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30 Jan 2011, 3:33 pm

richardbenson wrote:
I'm not spending a dime. its a fake holiday anyways


I like presents. I don't care if it's fake or not. :lol: Any excuse to have a romantic day, I say.

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£3.33 and no more


I love your posts, they're always so funny. :3



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30 Jan 2011, 3:51 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
What!? You don't believe in the power of capitalism? I swear you're getting a lump of coal in your stocking for Christmas :lol: .
you clearly forgot to remember is you probably have someone to buy something for.
I dont! :wink:

But i have to say, even If i did they still wouldnt get anything :D

I know. how ever will I make it in todays world by being such a cheap ass? :geek:
fortuneatley the world will still keep spinning around the sun so i'm not worried :pig:


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30 Jan 2011, 4:08 pm

richardbenson wrote:
you clearly forgot to remember is you probably have someone to buy something for.
I dont! :wink:

I'm actually with Grisha on this - I'm out for delfia right now :) . That might change one of these days but, not in the foreseeable future and yes, as an aspie quite possibly never.

richardbenson wrote:
I know. how ever will I make it in todays world by being such a cheap ass? :geek:
fortuneatley the world will still keep spinning around the sun so i'm not worried :pig:

Well...right but, any dollar your spending on either yourself or other people makes the economy more robust - hence my saying that Santa Claus, Macy's, and the Gipper would likely frown on that decision :wink:.