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11 Mar 2011, 3:57 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

A woman is never too tall. If a man doesn't like her height, he's the one with the problem.

This is an extremely overgeneralized statement, every bit of it ,this makes it simply false.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

A woman is never too tall. If a man doesn't like her height, he's the one with the problem.

This is an extremely overgeneralized statement, every bit of it ,this makes it simply false.

In other words... you have issues with height and didn't like that I point out it has nothing to do with the woman and everything to do with the person that has the issue.

Got it. :-)

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11 Mar 2011, 4:03 pm

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I do agree on the height thing. It is nice when bodies seem to be the right size for each other. But, if you are really in love, height wouldnt matter.

If you're attracted to someone, you're attracted to them. Period. If you're no longer attracted to them, but have already made the decision to love them, you should stick with your commitment and have an open and honest (albeit delicate) discussion about the difficulties with remaining attracted to this person. Counseling may be necessary.

But, the idea that you "fall in love" is nothing more than "soulmate" talk. You're attracted to people. Sometimes you have a strong chemistry with these people that makes that attraction amazing. You decide to love someone. You can be passionate in your actions and in your feelings of attraction. If you end up attracted to someone who contradicts what you thought would turn you on, I think you should run with it and challenge yourself. It happens.

But I don't fault a man for not wanting a tall/short girl any more than a fault a woman for not wanting a tall/short man. The concept of "love conquering all" should only apply after two people have made the commitment to love each other. They should allow this commitment to see them through as many difficulties as possible.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:09 pm

I don't fault someone for not being attracted to people of a certain height. However, I do fault them for suggesting there's something actually WRONG with the people that don't meet their height requirements.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:15 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

A woman is never too tall. If a man doesn't like her height, he's the one with the problem.

This is an extremely overgeneralized statement, every bit of it ,this makes it simply false.

In other words... you have issues with height and didn't like that I point out it has nothing to do with the woman and everything to do with the person that has the issue.

Got it. :-)

No, I mean that there are plenty of women in the world, the majority in fact, who really wouldn't date men shorter than themselves ; your statement denies this fact hence it's false.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:22 pm

My statement didn't deny anything. I was strictly speaking of men that have height issues. I feel exactly the same about women that have height issues.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:33 pm

I don't care myself, if I love her, she can be the 50 foot woman and I'll still love her. I'm short myself, so I'm not likely to get a girl who is shorter.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:39 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I agree that it's not cool to claim there's wrong with someone for not meeting one's requirements when those requirements are just personal preferences that someone cannot change about themselves (eg. height, eye color, skin color, their family, etc.). It's not a crime to be short or tall or whatever. People have a right to their preferences but they shouldn't be crappy about it.

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11 Mar 2011, 4:40 pm

For the record I have no problem with girls who are taller than me. Just wouldn't want a gf who was

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11 Mar 2011, 6:21 pm

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11 Mar 2011, 6:55 pm

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11 Mar 2011, 7:09 pm

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It seems quite weird that people still think it's improper for the woman in a couple to be taller than the man. Kind of smacks of the old "big, tough, protective male" thing, which doesn't seem appropriate in our supposedly feministic era.

The eras change, the veneer of culture changes, but the basic biological programs are still the same.

This^

I've seen studies where women were shown pictures and given descriptions and then asked whether they would date particular men. Taller men were consistently preferred, even when the women were told the men were exceptional in some way, such as having a six figure income or being a well known celebrity/author. I'm 6'0" and 235 lb. I have an advantage over a lot of guys w/o having to do anything.

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11 Mar 2011, 11:13 pm

Jonsi wrote:

I don't care myself, if I love her, she can be the 50 foot woman and I'll still love her. I'm short myself, so I'm not likely to get a girl who is shorter.

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11 Mar 2011, 11:16 pm

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12 Mar 2011, 3:34 am

Bataar wrote:

I'm 6'6" and have never met a woman I would consider "too tall". Unfortunately, it seems there are a plethora of women who are too short

I am close to your height and i am a woman.

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12 Mar 2011, 3:45 pm

Solvejg wrote:

Too tall?

i prefer women just under my hieght [6ft 3], but if she is taller than me, its also kind of a turn on.

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