Have Any of You Dated a Neurotypical Female?
I KNEW this was coming. Of course, I can't get a girl....I spend time all my time complaining about them!
I only started complaining after many hurtful rejections....I didn't just wake up one day and decide to start ranting about women, so don't get the cause-and-effect relationship mixed up here.
"Bad boys" in a general sense...I'm not sure we really have the same thing in mind because you can't really tell if someone is a "bad boy" by looking at them,. get a lot of women because they pick them up left and right and don't get discouraged when they get turned down because they never put an emotional investment in it and it's a sport to them. It's not that girls like them more.
ChekaMan
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With the possible exception of calling other people shallow, I don't do any of those things you listed.
there are lots of reasons for a person to feel they've disappeared. In my case it had nothing to do with tv altho desperate housewives is very funny in an unrealistic way. I think what happened is exactely what was written in the threat that I responded to. I gave up all the things I enjoyed, singing, drawing, friends, family.....(not talking about girls nite out) simply conversations, picnics, whatever.. I did not retain the identity of Tami instead I became his wife, their mother and the person I was disappeared completely. (bit like being in a daydream.. your going about your life your a great mom and a great wife but your on auto pilot) One day you wake up maybe it's because someone noticed "you" not the outer person but the one inside the one that had been yes stiffled for a lot of years , the one that was witty and charming and had ideas, dreams and thoughts that at one time mattered..... it sounds terribly depressing but the point is when you give up everything those things that make you laugh or smile or debate or calm you down.... eventually possibly out of self preservation you miss them and need them but because it's been so long you dont remember what they were you just know that the current situation is destroying you.
I totally agree with you but I feel that the husband has the potential to feel the same way depending upon one's relationship, also societal forces, work, kids, I can imagine drain the life out of you, (the once ever so great American Dream has turned into human slavery), alone time is necessary, couples alone time as well.
completely agree here
I agree with you there as well the question wasn't with not spending time together it was with giving up those things that interest you. What i'm suggesting is that you can have both a happy fullfilling relationship with someone; without having to let go of the things you enjoy the most.
I totally agree with you too.
there are lots of reasons for a person to feel they've disappeared. In my case it had nothing to do with tv altho desperate housewives is very funny in an unrealistic way. I think what happened is exactely what was written in the threat that I responded to. I gave up all the things I enjoyed, singing, drawing, friends, family.....(not talking about girls nite out) simply conversations, picnics, whatever.. I did not retain the identity of Tami instead I became his wife, their mother and the person I was disappeared completely. (bit like being in a daydream.. your going about your life your a great mom and a great wife but your on auto pilot) One day you wake up maybe it's because someone noticed "you" not the outer person but the one inside the one that had been yes stiffled for a lot of years , the one that was witty and charming and had ideas, dreams and thoughts that at one time mattered..... it sounds terribly depressing but the point is when you give up everything those things that make you laugh or smile or debate or calm you down.... eventually possibly out of self preservation you miss them and need them but because it's been so long you dont remember what they were you just know that the current situation is destroying you.
I totally agree with you but I feel that the husband has the potential to feel the same way depending upon one's relationship, also societal forces, work, kids, I can imagine drain the life out of you, (the once ever so great American Dream has turned into human slavery), alone time is necessary, couples alone time as well.
completely agree here
I agree with you there as well the question wasn't with not spending time together it was with giving up those things that interest you. What i'm suggesting is that you can have both a happy fullfilling relationship with someone; without having to let go of the things you enjoy the most.
I totally agree with you too.
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I keep seeing a continued theme of models and barbie types...could it be that your quest to find love has less to do with you or whatever you feel is wrong with you and more to do with the 'package' you think your looking for?
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What if a guy is incredibly awkward around strangers but okay among friends?
He'll probably wind up with a girl who is introduced to him by friends or a girl who joins a group he is already a part of or a girl who he is friends with first.
My friends aren't exactly trying to introduce people to me though... it's like they're all trying to avoid me.
IIRC, they didnt do much for Lt Barclay on the Enterprise either. They just rolled their oh so superior 24th century eyes at him and wondered how he got on the ship.
They survived nuclear war, didnt need money and could warp space but still couldnt throw an awkward guy some social training? That's quite a society.
Shy is fine.
Socially awkward is fine.
Nerdy is hot.
Whiny stereotyping is a major turn-off.
Fine - point taken...
Now will you marry me?
Of course!
Now that that's out of the way, perhaps a proper introduction would be in order?
Jeez, are you high maintenance or what?
Yeah, tell me about it! It makes me terribly ashamed of myself, but as a female whose free will is subsumed by evolutionary demands, I feel compelled to have a partner who has told me his name; or at least lied about it in a convincing manner.
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Shy is fine.
Socially awkward is fine.
Nerdy is hot.
Whiny stereotyping is a major turn-off.
Fine - point taken...
Now will you marry me?
Of course!
Now that that's out of the way, perhaps a proper introduction would be in order?
Jeez, are you high maintenance or what?
Yeah, tell me about it! It makes me terribly ashamed of myself, but as a female whose free will is subsumed by evolutionary demands, I feel compelled to have a partner who has told me his name; or at least lied about it in a convincing manner.
Details, details...
If you're so certain this is the case then what are you even talking about it for? If you're convinced no woman would have you, then moaning about it isn't gonna help. Move on and find something else to do with your life
I don't even disagree with this, BUT two things:
1. I didn't start the thread...I was just responding to what someone else said
2. I get sick of women claiming they like "shy, socially awkward, nerdy guys" and not "bad boy alphas"....sure there's probably a FEW who do, but most don't.
Actually most women just like average guys.Of all the boyfriends and husbands I know, none of them are "bad boy alphas"....or "shy, socially awkward nerdy guys" who spent their time ranting about women.
You and Chronos should hook up. Sounds she has as much trouble as you do getting a date.
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