Asking girls out online on non-dating websites

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A few days ago I joined a website called the Black Science Fiction Society, which is devoted to fiction with African or African Diaspora themes. Now just this morning I met a woman on this website who I found quite attractive and who shared some of my interests. Alas, after chatting briefly with her, she told me she was already married, but that isn't what bothers me. What I'm wondering is whether it's appropriate to ask girls out on a website like this, which is not a dating website. Do people view that as weird?

Actually, I've always thought that meeting people on non-dating websites was actually preferable.

I don't see any problem with it as long as you're polite, not too aggressive, and you don't continue to bother her if she makes it clear that she's not interested.

A very good test question for those types of websites is "are you single?". Women are smart; they'll know exactly why you'd ask that. If she's single and interested, she'll say yes and you're can try to ask her out. If she's single but has a boyfriend, she'll specify it when answering you. And if she's married but cheating, she won't do it on non-dating sites; they have that god-awful Ashley Madison site for that.

It's often difficult to find someone that lives relatively close to you. There isn't much point if they don't.

I remember reading that two people got married, all starting from meeting on an MMORPG.

Someone asked me out on Runescape, back in the day. Oh dear...

I would suggest getting to know her a bit first, rather than asking her in your first conversation - the chances are she won't be looking for a relationship online, and definitely won't be expecting it on that site, unless it's related to sex

There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone online and then asking them out though

If she seems into you, go for it.