emimeni wrote:
I'm sure many people think I'm a cold-hearted bi***. After all, I'm quiet, and people are egotistic enough to take that to mean I don't like
them, personally.
draelynn wrote:
I have witnessed so many women playing the flirty, girly suck up role time and time again and if f***ing WORKS. WHYWHYWHY do guys BUY that crap?! Especially went it so obviously manipulative? These women who are purposely playing you to get what they want are okay but the smart girl that tells you the truth without the bells ans whistles is a b***h... it's a wonder we survived as a species.
It's a cultural thing, really. Men value stupid, submissive girls.
Both truisms. My boyfriend of ten years broke it off to go with a woman he thought was more docile. He said that it was difficult, because I was his best friend, and the only person that really told him "like it is". He "admired" that about me. Unfortunately, he also believed this meant I wasn't good girlfriend material.
I tend to think a lot of the so-called neurotypicals perceive us as cold, because they are so wired to be hyper dramatic due to their own mental or developmental issues. I've noticed a lot of us have parents that are bi polar (my own included). I've had several friends that were as well, and like my mother, they brought up the coldness issue when I didn't always enter into melt down with them.