How is or was your high school social life?

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jesstheflautist3
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15 Aug 2018, 11:50 pm

My social life is alright. No really close friends like the ones you see in movies, although about 4-5 good friends who would stick up for me no matter what, but won't invite me to their parties as I'm too 'uncool'. Lots of acquaintances, and lots of friends from different years due to band/choir. Oh, and no dating life at all. I'm looking forward to making new friends in Uni next year :)



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31 Aug 2018, 4:33 pm

Middle school and high school were both hell for me.

I was diagnosed with AS when I was 13. When I was 13, I had no idea what my specialist (who loved giving me and similar students a hard time) was talking about because I was going through a rough period in my life.

-The passing of my father, who passed on June 2nd, 2002, the day after I turned 12.

-Raging Hormones

-School Bullies, including two teachers, who often picked on me and other similar peers.


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02 Sep 2018, 11:47 am

Not particularly social. I sit alone most of the time during recess and lunch, but I'm starting to feel lonely ever since my sister graduated from my school. She officially received her diploma last year (my freshman year) and didn't go to school after her graduation. I didn't suffer the effects of loneliness until I started my sophomore year recently. I do have a friend that I've had since last year who is a grade above me. I've been trying to find another sophomore who can be my backup so that when my current friend graduates, I will have someone to replace her. That friend visits me at lunch once a week, but my mom says that's not enough.

I have been considering a particular sophomore who seems really nice, but she doesn't seem particularly trusting of other people (and not just me in particular). I think she may have contradicted herself when she said that she trusts me as a friend, but it's possible that she simply does not want to be a close friend. This frustrated me because I feel like I had wasted all of my current efforts to get closer to her. Just because I feel frustrated does not mean I will actively avoid or shun that sophomore, however.


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02 Sep 2018, 11:56 am

I left high school after less than two months because I had horrible anxiety and was an emotional wreck from the constant bullying.



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11 Sep 2018, 8:25 am

I didn't have a social life in high school, but I wasn't being bullied either. I was incessantly being bullied before so it was much better. I changed schools to a somewhat better environment. People were too focused studying for finals and enjoying their life and stuff. I was too busy playing online games. However, I was being pressured to have good grades and anxiety was the plate of the day. I entered my college of choice anyway. I'm still anxious but at least I'm not depressed anymore. Since I enjoy the subjects a lot. Life has been much better overall but I'm still friendless. At least the environment here is much friendlier and there are nice people overall.


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11 Sep 2018, 8:32 am

During the first year of high school my parents divorced and me and my siblings and our mother moved to an apartment building (I haven't ever lived in one by then) and that change triggered a massive change in me, I became depressed, more socially anxious and from there on until the last year I didn't really have much of a social life after school days. We moved again when I was fifteen and none of my classmates ever visited that home. I think moving places always makes me shutdown or even feel like a completely different person, so I think I acted weird, and especially girls didn't really want to be around me, I didn't get invited to get-togethers and such. Hurted then and hurts still.



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11 Sep 2018, 7:09 pm

Wutz a social life?


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16 Sep 2018, 4:21 pm

it was nonexistent lol. I ate lunch alone most of the time. I was painfully awkward and anxious. I stopped going to school for 4 months because of it and almost dropped out. It was a shame because I did great academically and loved that aspect of school. College is better because you can peacefully be a loner and there is less pressure to be social.



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16 Sep 2018, 4:37 pm

Good. I was part of the stage crew, a collection of the nerdiest of the nerds. We were given a lot of leeway in our need to buy certain pieces of equipment, paint and such, which allowed us to be gone for hours at a time. Chess clubbers were in awe of our nerdish skills. :wink:

For me, it all gave me the ability to be supported by others even though I was only then beginning to lose my selective mutism. I didn't need or want more of a social life than I had at the time with my fellow stagehands.


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06 Dec 2018, 9:53 pm

People really just leave me alone; there was some bullying in grade 9 because I didn’t speak at all (selective mutism) but that was about it, although come to think of it I was laughed at today. I don’t have any friends at that school but I have friends and a girlfriend outside of my school. Most of my teachers are nice. So I’m not socially active but I’m cool with that.



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09 Dec 2018, 11:39 pm

High school was fine. Socially things weren’t perfect but I wasn’t really bullied outside of *MAYBE* (I have to think about that again) isolated minor events. Middle school was far worse in that regard for reasons that were self-inflicted in retrospect.

Anyway, my academics were fine, graduated in the top 10% of my class, am at a state university as a double major on the Dean’s List every semester. Socially, though, I still kind of am a loser. Freshman year is probably the worst in my life, particularly second semester due to isolation and many so close but yet so far scenarios with my peers. I still don’t really have any close friends on campus.



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16 Dec 2018, 12:40 pm

social life? I have several friends & I usually go out every 3rd/4th week. for most of my school yrs, I was bullied, mainly by jocks. to my surprise, I was classified as an intellectually & verbally gifted student by several teachers. I'm going to college next yr. I'm looking for a new start, a fresh 1 & rn, I'm trying my absolute best to improve myself, mentally, physically, emotionally & socially



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02 Jan 2019, 4:36 pm

People spoke to me. I had a lot of guys be nice to me cause they wanted to f**k

Of course once they realized this wasn't going to happen they immediately ignored me so no friends in high school and none now :wink:



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18 Feb 2019, 7:25 am

I was esl so i hang out with all the eastern europeans and south asians.
some nerds . Somw mexican kids .
Overall it was clueless..


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20 Feb 2019, 9:35 am

My entire School experience up to college was awful. I just didn't fit in. I dropped out at 15 and ended up getting my High School equivalency (GED) and finishing my education in college. College was easier, because I didn't need to fit into a particular group, I could set my own schedule, and learn what I wanted to. I also found it easier to interact with adults rather than children.