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RightGalaxy
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23 May 2011, 6:43 pm

I'm 50 year old woman, married, have two sons. None of these situations make me feel female not even sex. My gender is more like a mechanical, push-button gender. I used to consider myself a "blivet".



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03 Jun 2011, 9:08 pm

I'm a young gay male and I feel fine being that way, but I had a conversation not long ago with my sister in which I claimed that I didn't really identify with any gender, and she said she felt the same way. If I woke up tomorrow in a female body, I can't imagine it being too much of a shock. As a matter of fact, sometimes I wish I was a straight female, since it would be a lot easier finding a boyfriend that way.



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06 Jun 2011, 4:11 pm

I don't feel I have a gender either. Technically I'm a girl, but I've never felt comfortable with makeup or tight clothes or any other 'girly' stereotypes. At the same time, I don't feel male in the sense that I don't feel masculine and 'manly' and have to prove myself to other people. I don't know, I just wear what feels comfortable and act how I feel.
It might also be worth mention that I'm asexual as well. Somebody should do a study on that.


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07 Jun 2011, 4:29 pm

Verdandi wrote:
I guess I am socially a woman, but I do not really see myself as having a gender. There are days I would rather not be seen as being any gender at all.

I'm also asexual, although I am not necessarily aromantic.

I have described myself as lesbian, although I am not really sure that fits.


This describes me almost perfectly! I don't know necessarily what you mean by "asexual" as it pertains to you, but I find that while I'm very interested in sex, I don't really crave it. I recently realized that I'm a lesbian, but it took me till age 22 to figure it out and I'm still not really sure what that means to me. I used to have sex with boys, and it was sort of fun, but I never really felt turned on and was just pretty uncomfortable and guarded and there was nothing I really wanted to do. I'm more interested when I'm with girls.



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08 Jun 2011, 7:48 am

I don't feel as though I have a gender, since I'm neither particually male nor female (though my genitals indicate latter). But, I identify as a lesbian and have a high libido.



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22 Jun 2011, 6:12 pm

this is exactly the way I feel. Just exactly. I'm born a female but I do not dress or behave like either of them, any loads of people cannot tell if I'm a boy or a girl unltill I begin to speak (i have quite a high pitched voice sadly). Im attracted to both sexes, altough more to males than to females, I do have sex on rare occasions, and I do like it, but my mind it not focussed on it 24/7. It is more enjoyable for me to just watch beautifull people from a distance without any contact, to think about them etc. That's good enough for me most of the time.

I wouldn't be able to describe what I am, perhaps a bit more like a guy mentally, but usually it's very much inbetween.



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07 Jul 2011, 11:27 pm

I was born a male, but I do not feel male or female. My romantic orientation is biromantic but I am mostly asexual. I have an extremely low libido (perhaps even none) but I do have a slightly higher libido in relationships. I prefer to be referred to by name, rather than gender specific pronouns, but I'm okay with the pronouns. As for actual sexual experience... Well let's just say I prefer sexless relationships if possible. I will masterbate maybe once or twice a year though. I view that as a stress reliever rather than pleasuring myself however. I dislike the feeling of it quite honestly.

I'm not sure how to describe myself as I haven't an extensive knowledge on the terminology so I might be wrong with some words' usage. But that should be readable I hope. :D



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15 Jul 2011, 11:36 am

I am the exact same way. I identify as nongendered and neutrois (meaning I'm transsexual, but instead of feeling like my body is wrong because it is the opposite sex than I feel like I am inside, my body feels wrong because I feel like I should have no sex at all.) I'm also asexual.

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I've always felt more like an entity than a gender.


Also, this, exactly. I've never felt like I was quite a human being, either, and I hate being treated like a gendered, dating, marriage-and-children-wanting member of human society while all I really want to do is make and produce music. :roll:



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15 Jul 2011, 2:43 pm

I am what my doctor and I call "third gender." I am neither male nor female and I have been on hormones to make me happy in my body. Physically I am somewhere in between male and female and I have never been happier and more comfortable in my entire life.



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15 Jul 2011, 5:49 pm

Wow, it's nice to see so many people who feel the same as I do.

I was born in a male body and don't really have any androgynous characteristics. I'd be open to pushing that a little bit but I'd rather not have to deal with questions from people about this or that. So I just leave it be.

I've dated mostly women but also some men. I'm perfectly bisexual in theory, but in practice tend more towards heterosexuality. The reason is that straight women are more prevalent in society than gay or bisexual men, and that the latter also tend to have personality traits that I don't find terribly attractive. That's just my limited experience, though.

I'm asexual but can get excited about pleasing a partner, which is either an act or else I'm not entirely asexual. I do have biological urges that I have to take care of more frequently than I'd prefer. I would LOVE to find a way to shut that aspect of my body off. I always feel foggier mentally after an orgasm and so to just not require those would be welcome. I suppose that there is the issue of prostate health, though, so perhaps I shouldn't complain too much.



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07 Aug 2011, 3:24 am

Wow, this is fascinating. I didn't know so many people here felt this way! I am biologically female, but inside my head, I feel neither male nor female. I'm also not at all attached to my gender: if I'd wake up biologically male tomorrow, fine by me! I embrace characteristics of both genders in the way I dress, act and think. It's only recently that people have started remarking that for all of my feminine looks, I don't act like a woman at all. Friends say I 'think like a man', which I suppose to mean that I am forward about things instead of pussyfooting around them. A lot of gender identity relies on stereotypes, I believe, and as soon as you shun those, you become 'odd'. It's not even about make-up or the way you dress sometimes, but the role you play in society as a whole. I, for instance, don't want children, and a lot of people ask me whether I would feel 'fulfilled as a woman' if I didn't, or if I don't consider it my 'duty as a woman' to reproduce. The mind baffles. I don't even consider my gender role most of the time and find it very odd that other people should concern themselves with it at all.



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08 Aug 2011, 11:23 am

This would apply to me aswell. I don't feel like a man eventhough I'm perfectly content with my anatomy, I wouldn't mind if I suddenly found myself having a female body. In some ways it would be liberating, I imagine, but I'm fine either way.
I don't really understand people's obsession with presenting or not presenting as their biological sex, they might aswell try to hide their eye or hair colour. It's so insignificant to me that both sides tend to aggravate me when they keep pushing their particular view on gender.


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08 Aug 2011, 7:43 pm

I do sometimes feel as though I don't belong to a gender. I feel as though I shouldn't have a male body, but also not necessarily fitting for a female one either. I feel somewhere in the middle, not strictly pertaining to either gender but rather being a rather unique and eccentric character that doesn't dedicate to being either a male or female.

That said however, I DO want to explore sex. I simply crave it and I want to see the things I can do with sex as a person who doesn't feel that I belong to a particular gender.



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20 Aug 2011, 12:59 am

I am a woman married to a man. I am attracted to women, but only came out a few years ago. Since then I discovered quite a transgender desire in me. I've never felt feminine. I would happily cut off my breasts tomorrow if they weren't the only breasts I get to touch.! I don't feel like a man either except during sex. I say I feel transgender but maybe I just feel not female.

I dont have much sex with my husband for obvious reasons, but also because I struggle letting him touch me. And all the bodily fluids!


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20 Aug 2011, 9:52 pm

I feel this way honestly. I don't really identify with the stereotypical male gender roles, but I don't really feel female either. I live as a male because I look the part (and because the clothes are a bit more comfortable), but if I woke up tomorrow with a vagina, I wouldn't be too terribly angry about it.