Reasons/Benefits of dating Aspies and other HFAs

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So, I'm giving a speech on Thursday in my Persuasive Speaking class on the merits and why you should envision yourself dating an Aspie/HFA. Do you all out there have any compelling reason(s) why? Basically, almost like a top ten list.

We tend to be very, very honest.

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Diagnosed with High Functioning Autism well into adulthood.
It's never too late to get a diagnosis.
Hell, I thought I was just weird.

i can (obviously) come off as really abrupt and my tone can sound sharpish, so feel free to ask me to clarify

you dont have to worry with us playing games with ur head


*from an aspie girl here

I seen a lot of articles online about why women should date Aspie guys & they say Aspie men are extremely honest & loyal. They make us sound like lost puppies. I've been told I have lost puppy syndrome before

Not having to talk about your feelings (that is a plus right?).

IIRC there is a list of reasons in the Complete Guide.

Extreme honesty
Fidelity
You tend to know where they are at night.
Can have unique perspectives that make them entertaining.
Not likely to drag you to their family functions or other social events that you might normally go to but have little interest in personally.

I would say Loyalty but we can't take dishonesty from our partners (should we have one) so it's sort of neutral rather then a positive.

Hmmm....maybe we are very punctual in dates?

Honesty is the best loyalty is also but having to deal with the day to day challenges of being a HFA or a Apsie will create a strong bond between each other when you do date a Aspie or a HFA

OP, I'm not sure I understand the premise of your speech. You should date an Aspie for the same reasons you'd date an NT: because you have similar values, you share common interests, you're attracted to each other, you bring out the best in each other, etc. (I think it's worth mentioning that both partners have to be patient, and open to experimenting with communication to find a style that works for both of them.)

There is absolutely nothing about being Aspie that makes a person more loyal, faithful, or honest. Please don't spread that myth - it's damaging and hurtful. The two Aspies I dated were - by far - the most manipulative, destructive, disloyal, cheating, hateful liars I've ever known. Were they such lousy people because they were Aspie? I don't think so. I think there were other factors that had much greater influence on their behavior than Asperger's: they were both raised in extremely dysfunctional families, and one of them very likely suffered from Attachment Disorder. (That combination is like being in a relationship with someone who is the next best thing to a sociopath.) But again, I can't stress strongly enough that their bad behavior was about a lack of character combined with mental illness - not about being Aspie. There are lots and lots of nice, decent, kind, honest, loyal Aspie men out there - but they're men of character - who happen to have Asperger's Syndrome. Maybe persuading people to evaluate Aspies for the people they are - rather than their diagnosis - would be a worthwhile endeavor?

What you see is what you get.

Very direct.

I agree with HopeGrows. The condition doesn't really effect how they turn out...I've talked to people with different problems and I can say I get on with a few....as some of them can be very hurtful and nasty....that isn't their condition that makes them so...it's the personality that drives them to be so awful to others.