JWS wrote:
I'm not even sure what being myself would be. I always seem to act differently depending on who I am with at the time...
Enjacium wrote:
I tried to explain that when I'm with some people I seem to connect more than others and can open up and be myself more -he didn't get it. I asked him if he ever felt like that and he said no- he was always himself...
Sometimes I feel like a chameleon and adapt, but usually I kind of just shut down-don't contribute...I would if I could, but nothing comes to mind...
Well said, both of you. Same here. In public, I am very much like a chameleon. I unconsciously adapt my projected "self" to match its surroundings. But often I find myself drawing a blank and don't seem to have much of a "self" to express.
"Being myself" happens when I am totally alone, without the prospect of any social interaction... which is hardly ever.
Years ago, I lived on my own, and there were times when I could go home to my apartment, lock the door, and be completely myself. No one was there waiting for me. No one was coming over. No phone calls to make or emails to answer. There were no engagements or expectations for socialization at all. Then I could be myself.
In a way, that is sad. Total isolation. But after years of continuously trying and failing at the alternative (being social and living around other people), I can say that I do miss the days when I could really be myself...
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