Any Female in their mid to late twenties....

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not in a relationship? I don't know about girls on the spectrum but I always feel like the only female who is always single among other girls and women. What's more pathetic is the only relationship I was in was not much of a relationship to begin with. I'm not asexual nor against them. On the contrary I fantasize a lot about it but I think I'm a little confused about my role when it comes to gender. I'm straight but I am not great at being feminine or know what it means to be the girl in the relationship. Not that I want to conform but I've always felt extremely insecure and confused. I'm not sure if there is one factor. My communication skills are crap, I hate both my physical appearance and mental ability. I can't even handle a hug from a person because I feel like a monster. I don't know exactly how to define it. Whenever a guy doesn't call back or talk to me, I almost always assume he isn't interested. I've had this problem since I was a child. My way of communicating does not accurately depict what it is I'm trying to say. So I apologize if this post comes off odd or confusing. I was wondering if anyone else had similar issues.

*hugs*

I'm not in my mid to late twenties (yet) but I'm not in a relationship. I had three relationships that were relatively short (3 weeks to 3 months). I also hate my appearance, despite people on WP that tell me how much I shouldn't.

I don't know if my post helped at all, I just wanted to make you feel like you weren't alone.

*puts hand up*

I'm not. I just don't feel they work well for me. I'm also uncomfortable talking to guys I don't know, it doesn't help.

Yeah, I haven't been in one either! So you are definitely not alone!

i prefer to be single

It sucks to now be counted mid to late twenties. I feel like i was in primary school yesterday.

I am single and have no romantic interests on the horizon. Most men who i approach get all weird because i am what is known as "hot" and i am attracted to men with certain features which usually are found on men and women outside the norm so they usually freak out. I attract stupid muscly men with no brains and sporty types.

I guess i am differant because i have just come out of an abusive marriage so i have been through the whole wedding and children thing already. It isn't so great.


Just try to be yourself. Even if you end up alone, you can always get heaps of cats.

I am single now for two years. I only had one serious relationship before. I lived with someone for almost 3 years mainly to prove to myself and others that I could be normal. That was the worst thing I ever did to myself. I ended up scarred, completely burnt out and more insecure and self-loathing than ever. So I'm not looking for a relationship anymore. I would love to find someone I could connect with but it's not likely to happen. I attract the wrong kind of men - the same "muscles and no personality" or the adventurous type ("this girl seems hard to get so I'll make it the mission of my next week to get her"). Tbh, it's been so long since I was attracted to anyone myself that I can't even be bothered. It's better to be lonely and alone than to be in a relationship and still lonely.

I do have two cats though.

Why do you feel you need to play a role? Do the guys expect certain behaviour? You do seem to buy into stereotypes: no one who truly didn't would say they don't "know what it means to be the girl in the relationship".

I'm in my late twenties (if only for one more month). I'm not in a relationship. I use a dating site, and if someone asked me out, I would say yes. I do realize that my social problems and inability/unwillingness to conform make it difficult to find a partner. But it's not really a big deal for me. I don't need emotional intimacy, and I don't need men to have sex. That's what vibrators are for. And smut.

most of my relationships don't last longer than a few months, they usually leave or get distant when they get to know the real me. im starting to realize that its probably around the time where in NT's the dopamine drops and the oxytocin kicks in. my dopamine never really does that so my behavior either becomes obsessive, or i find someone else to stimulate that dopamine and end up cheating. i've been reading that aspies tend to have more dopamine than NT's, which causes our anxiety. i have this in relationships, sometimes i've been known to imagine that i'm in a relationship with a guy just because he looked at me a certain way and had decent conversation with me. i'm starting to think i have a special interest in men.