A word to the guys with Asperger disorder.

Page 1 of 3 [ 46 posts ]  Go to page 1, 2, 3  Next

ConfusedDude
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 17 Apr 2011
Age: 25
Gender: Male
Posts: 428
Location: San Juan, Puerto Rico

14 May 2011, 7:03 pm

Do you ever think that girls or women had ever tell you that you're weird? Because they've told me an it hurt a little bit. :cry:



Allan
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 4 Apr 2010
Age: 26
Gender: Male
Posts: 139
Location: Good 'Ol US and A

14 May 2011, 7:10 pm

what do you mean?



ConfusedDude
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 17 Apr 2011
Age: 25
Gender: Male
Posts: 428
Location: San Juan, Puerto Rico

14 May 2011, 7:17 pm

Like when they are looking at you strangely, and somehow you feel isolated by them.



ConfusedDude
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 17 Apr 2011
Age: 25
Gender: Male
Posts: 428
Location: San Juan, Puerto Rico

14 May 2011, 7:18 pm

Allan wrote:
what do you mean?
Like when they are looking at you strangely, and somehow you feel isolated by them.



SammichEater
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 6 Mar 2011
Age: 26
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,903

14 May 2011, 7:27 pm

I used to hate it when I was called weird. It's true though. I am weird, but is that such a bad thing?


_________________
Remember, all atrocities begin in a sensible place.


jrjones9933
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 13 May 2011
Age: 51
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,144
Location: The end of the northwest passage

14 May 2011, 7:32 pm

Lots of teenage girls hate themselves with a passion you and I can barely comprehend. It makes them mean, sometimes. Show some compassion to the sad girls, and leave the rude ones to grow up a little.



Allan
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 4 Apr 2010
Age: 26
Gender: Male
Posts: 139
Location: Good 'Ol US and A

14 May 2011, 7:33 pm

ConfusedDude wrote:
Like when they are looking at you strangely, and somehow you feel isolated by them.


1. You can't read minds
2. They don't know that you have AS
3. It doesn't matter

If these people are judging you by your cover then it's not the type of thing to worry about or even think about.



lightening020
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 22 Jan 2008
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 639

14 May 2011, 7:37 pm

I think that makes sense......I have definitely felt it and seen it too. Been called it a few times by this one girl I liked who might have had a thing for me for a little bit but I guess I blew it and she was almost 5 years younger than me.



MrLoony
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Jun 2009
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,298
Location: Nevada (not Vegas)

14 May 2011, 7:40 pm

You would prefer... what? To be "normal"? To be infinitely replaceable?

What makes you weird makes you worthy of love. Of loving and of being loved.


_________________
"Let reason be your only sovereign." ~Wizard's Sixth Rule
I'm working my way up to Attending Crazy Taoist. For now, just call me Dr. Crazy Taoist.


Keeno
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Mar 2006
Age: 46
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,875
Location: Earth

14 May 2011, 8:01 pm

A word to those who call Asperger's a disorder: we do not call it a "disorder" here. That's what I always say when our local society meets, that we do not call it a disorder here, I'm a stickler for that, we call it a condition if anything.



Todesking
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 22 Apr 2010
Age: 50
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,088
Location: Depew NY

14 May 2011, 8:33 pm

I have had a woman tell me my "shyness" caused me to give off a weird vibe. The same women wanted to go out with me because her two kids loved hanging out with me when she brought them into work. :roll: Normally I would have jumped on the chance to go out with her but I know for a fact she cheated on every guy she went out with. She would brag about to the waitresses and bus boys at the waitress station. When I told her thank you but no she told everyone I wouldn't go out with someone who had kids which was a lie.

Someone who calls you weird odds are are not that great themselves so don't get too broken up over it.


_________________
There he goes. One of God's own prototypes. Some kind of high powered mutant never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die -Hunter S. Thompson


MinorAnnoyance
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 4 Oct 2006
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 131
Location: Hamilton, Ontario

14 May 2011, 10:01 pm

Not in those words, but one in I think grade 4 asked me "Do you like how you are?" or words to that effect, which was kind of a profound question for people of our age, and it didn't bother me until years later when it really occurred to me that it wasn't really a question but an accusation, or am implication that I shouldn't.



Dantac
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Jan 2008
Age: 43
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,672
Location: Florida

14 May 2011, 10:28 pm

I was by a girl I care a lot about that I wasnt her best friend but I was one of her best friends because I 'got her' (understand her) since I had 'my' problems.


That... I don't know... hurt a lot and was sort of a comforting praise at the same time. ugh.



MrLoony
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Jun 2009
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,298
Location: Nevada (not Vegas)

14 May 2011, 10:52 pm

MinorAnnoyance wrote:
which was kind of a profound question for people of our age


"Children can ask questions wise men cannot answer."


_________________
"Let reason be your only sovereign." ~Wizard's Sixth Rule
I'm working my way up to Attending Crazy Taoist. For now, just call me Dr. Crazy Taoist.


Magnus_Rex
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Oct 2010
Age: 30
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,704
Location: Home

14 May 2011, 11:16 pm

Yeah. Last time, it was from a girl who, judging by the way she and her friend were glancing at me, could be interested in me. After we talked a little (to be honest, they asked questions and I answered in as few words as possible), she told me I am "somewhat weird", thanks to some of my more childish interests. After some more conversation, she said girls won't like me if I am too shy. I actually found her bluntness very enlightening, although I've become more dettached than usual since then (it happened last Easter).



MrLoony
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Jun 2009
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,298
Location: Nevada (not Vegas)

14 May 2011, 11:58 pm

Magnus_Rex wrote:
Yeah. Last time, it was from a girl who, judging by the way she and her friend were glancing at me, could be interested in me. After we talked a little (to be honest, they asked questions and I answered in as few words as possible), she told me I am "somewhat weird", thanks to some of my more childish interests. After some more conversation, she said girls won't like me if I am too shy. I actually found her bluntness very enlightening, although I've become more dettached than usual since then (it happened last Easter).


And, as we all know, all girls like exactly the same things.

There are girls that find being shy a turn-on. Here's the thing: If you fake not being shy and attract a woman for that, she's not attracted to you, she's attracted to who you're pretending to be. Either the relationship will fall apart, or you'll be stuck in a miserable one for the rest of your life.

Either way, pretending to be something other than yourself never works.


_________________
"Let reason be your only sovereign." ~Wizard's Sixth Rule
I'm working my way up to Attending Crazy Taoist. For now, just call me Dr. Crazy Taoist.