Whom do you find it easier to talk to

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I'm female, and I find it much easier to talk to men. Preferably older men.

I can't properly answer the poll.

I don't find that my ease or difficulty of talking to anyone is related to their gender. I don't mean that I don't see gender or anything like that, just that other factors tend to play more of a role.

I think I'm more comfortable with women because they wear their emotions more obviously. I can read them better, and so naturally feel more of a sense of levity. No social pretenses to keep up (which around guys, I tend to do through strict silence, and cracking asinine jokes). Generally.

Plus, I like to listen to women, literally, the sound frequencies coming out of them are more pleasant. I try to add to whatever they are thinking / saying, in addition to really doing my best to listen. They seem to like that. Relatively, I'm oblivious to how a male is feeling, because around here the gender tends to be emotionally introverted/repressed in US society to begin with. So I never know what is going on, really, with males. What comes out tends to be assertive, obtuse, antagonistic, and/or stoic.

My own emotional illiteracy provides a natural lack of repressed male emotions - this results in a level-headed-ness / comfort / diplomacy around emotional situations. For women, this translates to "He's in touch with my emotions" or "comfortable with who he is" - which is of course not fundamentally true, but that's just how it seems to work out.

(Mehhh. I'm still not certain about these opinions / observations of mine)

It's a very difficult question to me. Varies with age and themes, a multi-dimensional function. Today I find talking to my female colleagues easier, but not by much, I'm not so good with both of them. I can find a common theme with my gender easier when I meet people randomly. I can not sustain a conversation with the opposite gender for long usually, except when dating. My closest friends are all males, I can talk to them or listen to them almost endlessly. I don't have friends who are typical male, as described in the above posts, the ones I have are a little quirky or have some resemblance to me. I always have difficulties when I'm supposed to act as a male as described, and I'm often confused why it is so with many girls that it is a must when you want to appeal to them.

I prefer talking to females, but i will talk to males if i have too. All my close friends are females.

I'm more comfortable with the average member of the same sex than the average member of the opposite sex, I think. Males tend to intimidate me.

i prefer company of female friends
close friends only not a group
just a single person who can relate to me and understand
or share common interest

I find it easier to talk to guys because they don't talk like Valley Girls and fill their conversations with fluff.

Strangers....they don't know anything about me so they can't judge me.

It doesn't matter much. Age matters a lot more than gender for me. I find it easiest to interact with people older than I am. Though I do find it easier to talk to girls my age than boys my age, but in terms of people older or younger, than me, it really doesn't matter. I will vote "people of my gender" because I want to see the results, and because in certain age groups, girls are easier to interact with than boys.

I tend to get along better with guys, but I have trouble when they learn I'm a girl (online only) or because they mistakenly think I like them, when I don't. I think I come on a bit too intense sometimes and that gets translated to "you must like me." So that gets frustrating.

With girls, it's like I speak an entirely differently language sometimes. Unless they are very nerdy (which actually is the case sometimes), I probably won't get along with them... there are so many experiences associated with female that I really don't understand. On the other hand, I know I'm definitely not a guy.

I know I already posted here before, but I find it strange that many of you have strong opinions either way. It really all depends on the individual.