moms with AS

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Yes, well, I'm pregnant and soon to be a mom with AS ( baby due in May 8th 2008 ) Star Trek release date.
Hopefully she holds out until after the movie.

I love Star Trek. So do my kid's. The new movie should be good.

My baby is 31/2 and has an earinfection that started yesterday She has not been her usual fun self as all I'll say.

I'm grateful to have a husband that adores her and will take her to the store and enjoy an outing with just the two of them. And grandparents that originally almost faught over taking care of her so in that way I have been blessed. We had her when I was almost 40. I was always trying to make up my mind whether I wanted children or not and time moved on obviously.

Am currently struggling with 2 things in my life. One is I have sever Panic/Social Phobia so to get me to go anywhere and not rush to get out of the building is a major stressor. My husband hates it and I worry that my daughter is missing out on too much normal kid stuff. The second is I would like to have another as we both had siblings and I don't necessarily want my baby to be a one and only.
It's a tough decision as my husband's company has done many cutbacks which is happening all over. And I would be years older then last time if we could even get pregnant. I didn't have alot of energy (never did), but I didn't have any children with the first pregnancy. I would have an active little girl though if we tried for number 2. Also we are concerned about the type of education we want her to have so I would be pregnant and homeschooling in my 40s? So would I be crazy to attempt this????

Well thanks for letting me ramble tonite

i am a mum with AS.
it's been the hardest thing to do. and i do it.

I'm an AS mum with an NT daughter and an autistic son. Both my children are in their early 20s now. I'm divorced but get on well with my ex. My daughter is married with two children and my son goes to a special college. It's been hard work and I have only known about AS for the last ten years and this was after my divorce.

I feel that the hardest part of family life apart from childcare has been the socialising you have to do along the way with inlaws, partner's friends, people at parent groups and people in my family telling me what I should be doing and pulling my strings like I'm some kind of puppet.

I am a mom diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I have seven kids. Four are my biological children and three were adopted. Of my four biological children, three have autism spectrum disorders. I did not know that I had AS when I had all of my children. I was only diagnosed this year when we had multiple children diagnosed. I absolutely adore all of my children, but it makes me sad that they inherited this from me and have such a hard time with a lot of things. However, they are the best, most wonderful kids! Would I have had so many children if I had known I had AS? No I don't think so, but I can honestly say that I can't imagine NOT having any of my children. I adore them! The hardest part of parenting that I find (due to AS) is that I have to be involved with so many professionals due to the special needs of my children. Early intervention people come to the house and that is tough for me. I also don't invite my children's friends over as often as a lot of people do. I do invite them and do the sleepovers, but it isn't my favorite part of parenting. Thank goodness with seven of them they entertain each other. I am lucky to have a wonderful husband!

^wow pinkfan. 7.
I am one of 8 children and i am fairly certain my mum is undx'ed AS. it was very tough.
i admire you strength.

^ yes. i have only one child - i got scared off any more by my childhood experiences!

I'm so scared I'm going to screw up my son, or that his father is going to, because he has a more conventional view on discipline and forcing "things that are good for him" on him.My views on discipline and the like are... different, unconventional. Some people would call me insane. When my mother used a strict/impatient/angry tone of voice with me, it damaged me and to this day I'm damaged by it. I don't ever want to use a strict/angry/impatient tone of voice with my child. I should show his father this post. Also, for example, he trusts so-called professionals to tell him what is good for him and his child more than he trusts his and his child's intuition. When someone craves a type of food, it's because they need it, but he ignores his cravings and would force his child to eat what he found revolting and ignore his cravings. For example, he says the doctor told him to introduce vegetables to him and not introduce fruit to him until later for some reason, because then he wouldn't want vegetables any more. But what if he needed the fruit? How do you know if he needs it or not if you don't introduce it to him? And eventually he would probably get sick of the fruit anyway and want the vegetables.

Hmmm, maybe, but maybe not. That isn't always the case.


Also, it isn't kinder not to introduce fruit to the baby so that he will still want vegetables. The baby is bored eating vegetables whether or not fruit is introduced and will have had happiness when the fruit was introduced even though they cried when not allowed fruit, and having happiness and knowing you can cry for more is better than having no happiness. The crying baby who ants fruit is happier than the baby who never got introduced to fruit, because the crying one knows better, knows of the happiness he had and can have.