Is it abnormal to have friends a lot younger than you?

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OK i am 21 years old but i have many friends one of them is 5 years old, some of them 3 years old, 7 years old, 12 years old, etc....
Like my neighbourhood that[img]file:///C:/Users/Ren/Documents/Lucas/10906386_10202315156919909_2877412278073939062_n.jpg[/img]
its only 2

I have had it both ways. I have had friends who are younger than I am and I have been the younger friend as well. I usually connect with people where there is a great age gap between us.

It looks like we've all experienced this to some extent.

What I would like to really know and talk about is the underlying reason as to WHY this is so.

But, yes, I am much better at making friends older or younger than myself.

I use to have two friends before I moved to a different city - one was an 8th grade boy who was 13, the other was his older brother who graduated the year before and who was also my friend.

A 15 year old 11th grade guy, friends with an 8th grade 13 year old and his 18 year old brother...

We were all good friends and I was happy with my friendships with them but that doesn't mean socially it looked like an odd match.

I think we all have our own reasons, but this is mine:

I hate to sound arrogant, but I've always felt a little more mature for my age. This is what helped me get along with older people a lot better.

People younger than me, I like to feel like the wiser/maturer one who can offer guidance. Most people I am friends with who are younger are a bit mature for their age anyway i think...

I'm in 12th grade now and only just starting to notice that everyone else is beginning to catch-up to me.

For the first time in my high school years everyone else my grade has finally caught up to the same maturity level as me - and at the same time I am near the same social skill level as them...

I was behind in social skills, they were behind in maturity. It's balancing out now.

Last year in 11th grade I was so tired of all the pointless behavior my peers had - so I was friends with an 18 year old and his extremely mature 12 year old brother...

What reasons does everyone else HERE have?

Not at all. I have friends who are still in high school, and one of my best friends is 3 years younger than me.
When it comes to friends, personally for me, age doesn't really matter. It's mainly about personality and how that person is overall on the inside.

I read somewhere that Aspie women tend to have either friends who are a lot younger or a lot older. The older ones sort of act as a guide in life. The younger ones are there, I think, because there is a tendency for Aspies to act younger than their age. I have learned to think that there is nothing wrong with any of these choices. Whatever makes you happy is what makes you happy.