jc6chan wrote:
I have aspie friends on facebook and MSN and I've noticed that on facebook I somehow connect well with aspie girls. Most of my conversations on facebook with aspies are with females. Now, that may not mean that aspie guys are quiet or anything, in fact, I do see facebook statuses of aspie guys but I'm probably not interested in commenting on it a lot of the times.
However, on MSN, whenever I start a conversation with an aspie guy, there seems to be almost no response and the conversations don't go far. They seem to be busy or something (even though their status is "available"). Aspie females on the other hand, I have long conversations with one of them and some others are willing to carry on the conversation.
Its weird sometimes I feel like an aspie female when I'm online lol.
I have that issue as well..as a guy my facebook is never updated nor do I bother to check it. Maybe once a month and thats it. I don't really get the point of having an online billboard about myself. The only reason I update my facebook is merely to update either the city im located in or to update my job/education info. I only have 2 pics in my profile.
Instant messenger type chats i'm worse off. Its not that im not interested in talking to someone its just that its.. well, small talk.
I bet most of the responses you get are close ended and seem to not be geared to continuing the small talk. Its not done on purpose. The 'no response' and 'conversations dont go far' is because we (or at least in my case) dont process small talk. Its pointless. If there's no point to to it then there's no response we can come up with to continue a pointless discussion.
By point I mean an objective purpose to it. When the other person notices that I don't 'grease' the conversation with open ended replies that can lead to other things to talk about they wind down the conversation and it eventually ends... this usually takes less than 15 minutes.
My close ended replies give the impression that im not receptive to the conversation... which I am its just that I can't go with its flow.
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OTH, if its a conversation with a purpose... then yes, I can chat for hours no problem. Something needs to be fixed? Discussion on something in the news? Discussing ideas on a subject or brainstorming? NO PROBLEM.
Jumping spaztically from one subtopic to another that involve things like weather, what the other person said yesterday that made another person upset, the color of the clouds this moment or worse yet, what im doing now.... THAT has no point or purpose and my brain just flips the 'IGNORE' switch to the ON position. Its blissful conversational ADHD.