talking and acting like a kid

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Do any of you display childlike behavior and speech during a meltdown? I do and its ruining my relationship because she just thinks I can control it and that its childish. Thanks

I repeat the same thing over and over again, usually simple phrases, so yeah, I do it. Usually I'm crying and/or shouting.

during a meltdown I suggested to hubby I was only capable of behaving like a 11year old - apparently I'm more like my toddler!
guess that's a yes then

No, but I scream curses in a very hammy way, like this (skip to 0:11 s):

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRamaCzY0x4&t=11s[/youtube]

I guess you could call that a childish behavior. Also, I used to punch hard surfaces, like walls and tables, but I haven't done that in ages.

Fortunately, my meltdowns are very rare. Generally, I will resign myself to feeling depressed, instead of screaming at the sky.

I shut down and cry when I have a meltdown.

No. And most girls or women don't want a boyfriend or husband who turns into a child when times get tough because they will usually have actual children to attend to and need a partner who helps make the tough times easier, rather than more difficult.

You should practice handling your melt downs in a more adult manner.

I've been trying to. I recently found out about aspergers so I had no way of knowing why I was reacting like this. Now I realize I need to have time alone to cope with too much sensory overload and also I've realized that I can switch off the emotion to a whisper if I need to.

Would you be saying the same thing to a female?

It's difficult for anyone to 'handle' a meltdown. I think it's better to avoid being in situations that cause them in the first place.

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Yep! In fact I act childish when I'm not having a melt-down, when I do melt-down though is when I get my stuffed rabbit out and sit curled up somewhere rocking. Seriously...No joke!

It's compounded by the fact that the meltdowns occurred when my girlfriend was being verbally abusive, ganging up on me with her friend I despise, and then hitting me when I told her I couldn't go to work because I almost got in a car accident over the whole meltdown.

It varies. Sometimes I simply freeze and don't move, if overstimulated in a crowded store or somesuch, sometimes I will just stop talking and gaze into space, and yes, sometimes I will scream, shout and break things.
Oddly, I have not seen this in the two male aspies I know, they seem to just remain entirely logical and calm under all conditions.

Might be because I'm kind of feminine anyway. I'm very very sensitive to anything really and if I get bothered I internalize everything until it erupts out.

I can sympathise with that. I know men and women who do the same thing. Don't feel bad about the way you meltdown because it's caused by your situation, rather than any fault with you.

When I have a meltdown, I just swear a lot and cry. I try to be so tough and stoic the rest of the time. People do not think I have a lot of emotions until they see that.

I should add that I stim like no one's business and flap like crazy. It's probably because since I was never diagnosed I thought everyone did it and that it was okay. I also hit myself, it's crazy considering I'm almost 22.

It's not crazy. You're on the autistic spectrum; age has nothing to do with it.

Get help if you need it, but don't feel ashamed. You shouldn't judge yourself negatively for being autistic because there are enough people in the world who will do that for you.

Do you want a hug? (I don't like just giving them to people without consent, even online).

Sure. Thanks for the support. It means a lot to me. I just have to wait to see a neurologist next week and I'll probably be diagnosed. I was looking at old pictures of me and all I see is a blank look. Even when I was a baby all I did was stare. Makes me wonder why noone bothered seeing anything wrong with me.