Attempted social interaction with NT spontaneously combusts

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Have you ever had this happen to you?

You say something to an NT, and they tell you that you are mumbling and ask you to repeat. So you raise your voice just a little bit, and speak more clearly to them. Suddenly they get mad at you for your improved volume and clarity of speech, that they just asked for. They didn't like your new tone of voice after all.

What gives with these weirdos?

Proably that inflection thing.

I think it helps if you raise your eyebrows when they get aggressive and say "I'm confused."

Or not.

Yeah; that's annoying. It would be nice sometimes to be able to communicate information without emotion, but that doesn't seem to be possible in spoken language.

I find generally when people do this, they were not amicable to the interaction in the first place and are intentionally giving you a hard time.

This has happened to me many times, although it would take two or three iterations of "speak louder."

Yep, happens to me ALL the time. But, that could be because I get severely PISSED OFF when people ask me to speak up, so I say it REALLY LOUD AND CLEAR which seems to piss them off. But, that's ok, because it's retaliation.

Yep, it's sarcasm. I've "fell" for sarcasm before, though, and I didn't really recognize it until 10 seconds afterwards when I processed all the social environmental cues (Everybody was laughing the second time he said "Can you speak a little louder?", which I continued getting louder as he requested. 10 seconds later, I realized, "Oh, everybody was laughing. He was probably joking the second time he said it.").

Doesn't usually happen to me. I usually get told that the way I talk to people is intimidating. I guess I don't really speak very softly, but it's not like I carry a big stick so I don't see what the problem is.

I often get accused of either speaking too softly. When I raise my voice, I'm often told to be quiet or tone it down. Either one can be annoying.

On a side note, do you ever talk to someone who is out of range and assume they can hear you, when they can't? I do this sometimes and wonder if it's related. "I can hear myself just fine, so why can't they hear me?" Logically, I know why, but I have trouble processing that in real time, I think.

Oh well, such is the way of things.

I've often been told that my monotonous voice suprises them

ya happens alot =/

It's an unfortunate side effect of theory of mind to be angered by autistic responses. Part of the generalised prejudice against us, like the assumption that autism's something to be ashamed of. It's ignorance that's worthy of shame, and unthinking prejudice as well.

Yes, prolly seeming different shocks them or makes them think less of the autistics...