I've been unemployed for 3 years. Anyone beat that?

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18 Feb 2017, 1:20 am

Yes, unfortunately. I haven't had a full-time job since 2007. I've taken some minor freelance work-from-home gigs since then, but nothing that even qualifies as part-time (30 hours per week). And that ended in 2009ish.

Gonna try and hop on the SSI/disability bandwagon soon. Not happy or proud of it, but at some point you gotta stop living in denial and make due with what's available. The town I'm moving to has an unbelievably low cost of living. A 2-story home costs $10,000 to buy outright and the low-rent apartments are dirt cheap, so hopefully I can scrape by on SSI + menial odd jobs. :oops:



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28 Feb 2017, 1:23 am

4. Haven't worked since 2012. :(


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09 Jul 2017, 3:30 pm

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After handing in my resignation letter earlier today, I will be leaving my current role with the NHS in four weeks' time. Incidentally, it was my first paid job for over six years, so my future looks somewhat bleak right now. I just cannot seem to cope in the workplace at all. My mind is either blank or extremely foggy, my working memory is non-existent and the dreadfully slow speed at which I learn is pitiful. I highly doubt I will find work again.

What is one to do when one's intellectual IQ is so low? I think I am completely screwed.


I don't think its anything to do with your social I.Q, or written I.Q, most probably just mind blindness and vague sensory perceptions, whilst struggling to find focus,being depressed and living on what must feel like borrowed time.
The NHS is another one of lifes poor shortages and unfortunately, it's only going to get worse as time goes on and less offers on the table in which apply for jobs.



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09 Jul 2017, 5:02 pm

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I'm 49 and have never had a job; 8 'O' levels, 3 'A' levels, BTEC and City & Guilds.


60, never employed . 6 'O' levels .
Was in line to go to an industrial assessment centre in 1979 but my pdoc said I wasn't well enough. Only voluntary job was helping with going round the wards with the hospital library back when I was 18. It lasted less than a month.


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10 Jul 2017, 3:28 pm

I've had temporary jobs and weekend jobs and one full time job which I hated and made me ill with anxiety and stress, having had barely no training, I was thrown in at the deep end. That's retail though for you.
All retail jobs require speed, multi-tasking, an eye on the ball, calmness in the face of a storm that type of thing.
My ma deals with annoying customers on a weekend regular basis and this is probably the worse time for families who are off and the aging population who go out the weekends to be around people, then they tend to spill and knock everything off the stands. I got someone once who wanted me to get them another milk carton because it was open and then blamed me when i said i can't get it, I'm on chechout, but i'll wait if you can get it yourself, obviously the wrong thing to day. I was 18, but even in that situation, I still wouldn't have dealt with being put on the spot well. Guy made a complaint and i lost the s**t job. Thats life.



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10 Jul 2017, 3:33 pm

8 years, I think, maybe closer to 9 now.

I'm unemployable.

Lucky I qualify for ESA and PiP with my bag of mental defects.



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10 Jul 2017, 7:15 pm

I've been unemployed since 2012, after I was laid off from my last job. I did have a job interview today with an organization that provides services for people with disabilities, and I think this is the only time that having AS might be an asset, along with doing well on their typing test as this was an office job.



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10 Jul 2017, 7:15 pm

3 years and 1 month, no mental defects just a borderline personality disorder, bipolar, dislike being labelled aspergers when they've revised it down to social anxiety which the employment agency assures me they can cure it via mock interviews through the process of rinse and repeat. Not eligible for benefits, been put on 3 year sanction (benefit cut because I wasn't complying with their brutal schemes) and have to lie to my family about still getting money in just to have a place to live in. Been passing courses top of the classes, but nothing came of them.

Annoying that someone with catering experience is more qualified for an IT job than someone who majored in computer science. Sure they were a young girl bursting with enthusiasm but the employer were a group of young geeky guys probably wanting a girl on their team to spice it up a little.



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10 Jul 2017, 9:29 pm

between november 2011 and june 2016, unemployed.

BA, ucsd, cognitive science, 2007. 2.198 gpa out of 4.0

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12 Jul 2017, 12:32 pm

Well many people are probably aware of this by now but I've been out of college since January 2011 with nothing to show for it except a temp job that I ended up doing for only 2 days so it's technically a little over 6 years of unemployment (the years of being a student doesn't count as unemployment they say) but really I've had no formal job my whole life except a part time job in high school which I got fired from after a few months. I tell employers that I wasn't ready to work at the time because of my grandma passing away. I don't know if that makes any difference but what else can I say? That was mainly the reason.

The only advice I really get is volunteer and it makes me feel like I'm not worth anything. I'm not good enough to get paid so the more the coaches push it at me the more I don't want to do it. They think I'm not really trying because of that but I'm willing to work for any pay as long as I'm getting paid. I also did volunteer work while I was in school. I know that was a long time ago but still it should still count since I tried my best in it. I'm willing to work any hours despite not being a morning person. I would work during holidays too. The only thing I ask for is vacation time. I tell employers that and they just don't care. I'm willing to learn on the job as well as long as one is patient with me.


I am realizing lately that it's not just because of my disorder. It's because of my life that whenever I apply for a job no one is willing to hire me. They say their concern when asked is I don't have enough work experience but if it's something like that of course they are never going to tell you and the fact that I'm getting interviews at all says a lot. I have been through so much of people mistreating me.even half my family wasn't good to me. Due to a traumatic experience most likely my therapist said I probably have PTSD. I was diagnosed with depression at only 14 (which was shortly after my grandma passed) Ever since she passed is when I started getting a lot of mistreatment. I have no idea why perhaps it's because I wasn't a young child anymore but it's a strange coincidence.
I never knew the extent of my trauma (combined with the things I am aware of upsetting me) affecting how employers perceive me I guess because all those years it happened I was in a denial sort of state. Knowing this in a way makes it all the more difficult though because I don't know how to tell them. You're not supposed to get personal but it feels terrible to hide part of my life when it's part of who I am and can be a good thing for me as an employee despite being negative. Most importantly though I have no way of explaining why no one has hired me without disclosing it. I even have a problem with disclosing my disability because I never know when an employer is going to accept it.
I now have a foot condition (as well as a digestive disorder) that holds me back from working certain jobs and I'm sure all the bad stuff I experienced helped it to develop.

I just don't know what to do now because I'm tired of trying and hearing from the people that are supposed to help me implying that I'm not really trying meanwhile they're the ones not really trying. The person I'm working with now who is saying I should volunteer often sends me a long list of jobs I'm not qualified for for one and most of the jobs that are listed I do qualify for I don't feel like I'd be able to do/look like a good candidate for.
I have applied for disability but really I just wanted a job and it takes too long to start getting it. The only reason I finally decided to do it is the work program you're supposed to get with it but I don't know how long it would take for me to get that.

The more I try and the more I try to go for appropriate people for help the more discouraged I get. One person I know says maybe I'm trying too hard. This is true I try so hard but I'm like that with everything. I don't know how to not try so hard. I think that's why when I was in primary school I would grind my teeth. I'd do it as I concentrated.
Being a deep thinker is supposed to be a good thing so under the right circumstances I know it is but the way my life has turned out it has always burdened me.



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16 Jul 2017, 2:50 am

I can't even remember when the last time I worked was. I think it was fall 2007 and that was a paid in cash under the table job. I am at the point now where I can not even prove I have ever had a job. My jobs before the cash one have closed and so has the cash one.

I'm pretty sad because recently I have been reading all these stories of how difficult is to be employed after a year or two not being so. And that's a nurotypical person with MUCH less time than me.

I feel like I have so many barriers. They will ask what I have been doing. The truth of my parents bought my food and pay my car insurance does not make me look good. Nor does the fact that I decided to sell drugs for years before my parents did this.

I was known as very good and reliable when I did. I have customer service skills but none I can talk about :wink:

I don't plan to ever work for someone else again. I got to used to being my own boss. So now I rely on my own investments. That's what the truly rich do anyway. They don't ask someone for a job their money makes money.



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16 Jul 2017, 6:26 am

Unemployed for 10 years, except when I worked for 1 day at a food bank in a shelter I was staying in, and I got paid for doing some art at that shelter too. I'm PATHETIC!! ! HOORAY!! !!



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16 Jul 2017, 1:59 pm

I can top that. I have been unemployed for almost 10 years now. I have tried different jobs and tried so many schools , but I haven't been able to stick to one thing for a long time due to my AS and other disabilities. It's very stressful for me to apply for a new job because then I have to explain why I haven't been working and why I quit my latest job. It's very hard.

Where I live, there are no room for people with AS. The school systems are designed for extrovert people only and if you can't handle that ..so sorry for you.

My IQ for example is high, I am not lazy and I'm very hard working. When in school I always got great/high grades and I have no problem reading and studying. That's not the problem. When working, the work was not the problem, my AS and how I couldn't handle people and noise was my problem. I am very sensitive to touch, sound/noise, lights and changes in routine and that makes some tasks very hard for me to handle. I am also very shy and introvert and I can't work with many people or be around many people at once. I can not speak in front of a group either or hold some speech in class for example. Where do that leave me and the rest of the shy, AS people ? In almost every school system you have to be able to be a little extrovert and confident at some point. And I can't escape people totally. There are people everywhere :)

Fortunately, after many years searching, I found a way to be able to study something that doesn't require me to be around people so much and I can study in very quiet and in my own environment, and maybe later I can find job and hopefully I can handle it and stick to it.



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18 Jul 2017, 9:36 pm

I'm pretty sure I can't beat your extent as I think a previous comment trumps both you and me, but I've been out of work since the end of January 2009. That's like, what, 8 years? And not one job opportunity has come my way since then. I feel completely purposeless. Sad thing is, I'm good with electronics and soldering. But nobody wants that. You're not alone, not by a long shot. :(



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20 Jul 2017, 8:19 am

I have had odd jobs but in terms of finding meaning in anything, even just to the extent I can avoid a sense of dread.. Always waited and waited to find the right workplace and people I can talk to and who are working with similar goals.. my own age. I have not had a full time job ever.