Post something that made you UNHAPPY today.

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Thinking about all the "potential" I had as a kid, how I was told I was "gifted," how they all said I'd grow up to be something great.
I grew up to be incredibly forgettable. Now, I'm not THAT hurt by this personally. I'm in an okay spot by my standards. But every once in a while, I think about what I COULD have been if I had had any motivation.
And it makes me just a bit remorseful. Just a bit, that is. Then I go back to my usual shenanigans.

To be fair, I basically laid out what I had to do when I was your age and in a largely similar position in terms of finances and dependency, I'm not 100% sure cuz I did work part-time, but only limited hours. I was also still in high school and year minimum from having adequate credits to graduate. All of the concerns you mention had to be weighed, and the consequences considered - as well as potential strategies for dealing with those - I knew they'd punish me, but they understood I too could and would impose consequences and that since I wouldn't tolerate being punished that effectively made that route more likely to lead to exponential blowback than to achieve the desired outcome. Basically, while it might be fair to suggest I was using 'adulthood' in an inherently childish and immature way, once I pointed out that pretty much any repercussions to the current set of 'autonomy goals' could be countered with additional ones and that I was absolutely prepared to respond in my usual scorched earth manner it forced a new, more lenient approach.

I was both bigger, and since I hadn't started smoking weed regularly a lot meaner so it's not like a physical response was ever even considered.

You can't kick someone out who's already used moving out as a potential response. If you're already not living there that's a non-issue, you already hold the high ground.

Once the new account is setup, that leverage is removed (as long as you follow up on all your expenses and direct deposits, but if you do it at the same bank they often can help with that). If you have a valid claim on the money and move it, you've taken the initiate and forced the other party to respond - if your mom really wants to take you to court she can try, but even then she might waste a bunch more money and lose, that's not a likely consequence so if you wanted to take the initiative you'd succeed and remove one source of leverage she has; you know, unless you'd rather leave that stick in her hand for her to hit you with, at least once you're holding it you get to decide how it's used from that point on.

Ultimately you gotta make your own cost/benefit analysis and I'm not questioning that you've made it correctly for your circumstances, temperament, way you value everything involved etc. I'm only suggesting that it's not inherently impossible. You've probably responded more maturely than I would have/did at that age, but that's not to suggest it's not a 'winnable' scenario.

I just scheduled my kitty cat to be put to sleep tomorrow. She's really suffering.

Thanks, Nick and TUF. She was diagnosed with very advanced Diabetes in the autumn and she isn't responding to treatment. She's lost about half her body weight and she's clearly uncomfortable. I have other pets including one beta fish, a male kitty, and my dog. My sick kitty and the dog are really bonded so it's going to be awful in that regard. My dog will mourn her, I'm certain.

I hope you and Cass feel better soon Nick. TUF, your tutor sounds odd. Can you switch tutors somehow?