Is Asexuality related to Asperger's?

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Personally, I think the link between ASDs and asexuality makes sense because of the social difficulties. Since we are "different" from the NT world, it makes sense that we have also different sexuality.

For myself, I don´t have a desire to have sex with anyone, especially men (I find penis gross, sorry guys). But I do masturbate and do have sexual feelings on my body parts. Actually, some of my stimming involve genitals (not sure whether I should call it "stimming" or it´s more like masturbation).

And also, I can´t help myself but I find sex pretty gross and don´t really understand it. Probbably that´s why I´m very conservative when it comes to sex (I know being conservative is "out" these days) and pretty tired of this hypersexual society.

I can say I'm gray-a. I have a sexual drive but I don't pursue sex. No woman can turn me on so hard that I would actively try to get her to have sex with me. Besides, I don't have enough social weaponry to bring someone closer to having sex with me, I don't actually know how sex is pursued. The idea of one night stands is fine in my head but in real life, I can't do it. A few girls made certain advances, for which I realized were advances a lot later in most cases. But in cases in which they were quite obvious, I couldn't do it because I will not have sex with a girl unless I want a long term relationship with her. I don't date for the same reason, very few girls attract me and I will not act unless the attraction is strong. (it's never strong).

I'm asexual. The most I like doing is cuddling. (I LOVE cuddling

I would like to have a "girlfriend" though. Someone who "gets me"

The types of girls that most guys would describe as hot or sexy, I feel no kind of attraction to. I prefer the "nerdy or geeky" kinda girl. I seem to like the girls in movies who would be described as "weird" like Luna from Harry Potter.

I'm an asexual guy. I never bring it up IRL and it's kind of a barrier to having a romantic relationship. It's not like I wouldn't desire to have a "romantic" relationship at some point if there really exists people in this world who would accept that without sex. The problem is for guys it's pretty much anatomically impossible to have "fake" sex just please a woman.

Hey, saw this topic while googling stuff about Asperger's and asexuality and thought I'd chime in with my own two cents. I know the last reply was back in March, but seeing as there was a two-year gap in the replies (I checked) I'm sure this is OK ;3


I have Asperger's. I have a dick and I do get these "tingly" feelings in it. However, I've learned to associate these feelings with mostly emotional and aesthetic cues instead of thinking that they're sexual.
Feel happy about great weather or spending time with a friend? Feel emotionally hurt after a bad situation? Feel frustrated, uncomfortable, stressful, anxious or annoyed? Feel excited about something new or awesome? Looking at something that's cute, beautiful or otherwise visually pleasing? Taking in a sensual experience, like eating delicious food or listening to awesome music? All of these things register in my dick as well.
The libido is always there, I just don't consciously associate it with sexual stuff. Like my username suggests, it's more of an "all-purpose feeling" that just reflects the situation I'm in and the thoughts and feelings I'm having. Mostly, though, it's just frustrating as all hell! It does make sexual thoughts bombard my mind, probably because the feeling is happening in my dick, but I consider these thoughts intrusive, disturbing and unwanted, like if some as*hole is watching really loud porn in the next room, and you just wanna focus on what you're doing but the porn sounds are distracting you and making you uncomfortable. It might stir when I see people, and I might have passing thoughts about sexually touching them, but when they fade I remember that I don't even want to do anything like that. It's kinda like sexual OCD, you know?
I consider the thought of having an intimate romantic or sexual relationship with anyone intensely uncomfortable, and I am quite content satisfying my libido by just masturbating. So yeah, I consider myself to be a type of asexual.

I don't think so but it might be a common thing among aspies, since a lot of us don't feel comfortable being touched.

Never heard of demisexual until now, this answers some questions I've had to myself, as I have no desire to have sex and down right fear it but I can still feel... eheh. Anyways, still confused about my orientation. Thought I was straight but then I developed a crush on a girl, then I became fascinated with transgenders and intersexual and considered myself pansexual, except I recently discovered I have no desire to be with them and am confused because I don't think I am bisexual?

Ways I can distinguish a crush is if I am more interested in them than other friends or people and I have an urge to help them and stuff. I also tend to be more wary of my character and have an urge to tell them as much information I can about myself and want to know more about them. There;s something else but I don't really feel comfortable explaining it. I'm pretty sure we all have our own way of feeling or showing platonic connections, though. but I've never actually confessed or shown my crushes how I feel..

ALSO, I am able to develop hate-crushes. I can 'like' a person, solely based on hatred. It's kind of like, I want to argue with them all the time and 1up them in everything but in a way, I expect them to embarrass me. It's pretty hard to understand.. I really don't know what I should label myself as.

Yeeah, sorry if I went a bit off-topic, sexuality and orientation are different but they're both really confusing.

Having sexual relationships solidified my sense of not wanting or needing sex.

Interesting thread. I posted to an evolutionary psychology list just to get some reasonable theories for the cause of asexuality, but nobody provided anything interesting (aside from some disease-models).

Thus, I posted my own model, and nobody really commented it.