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20 Aug 2011, 1:51 am

Hmmmmmm, how do I approach this. :chin:

Does anyone feel like they are super-shy in some aspects in life...yet they are attention-seekers elsewhere?

Like they stand out and blend in at the same time?

It feels like I get depressed and happy all the time, and I like standing out and being weird but I also shy away from it sometimes.

I could be the shy personality....if I didn't like socializing to a point.
I could be the weird flamboyant personality....if I didn't shy away when people stared at me.

It feels like I could fit into one side of the equation, but then I am on the other, and it doesn't make sense.

Does anybody else get this? (and feel it impacting you socially?)


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20 Aug 2011, 1:56 am

I'm am shy IRL, but not on forums. (actually, still slightly shy)
And I like being on the first page of a forum thread. :P



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20 Aug 2011, 1:58 am

I read an article about shy people seeking attention but I don't remember it properly. I think it said shy people seek attention because they don't get attention or something. I am shy but I don't like too much of attention. I guess I can handle a little but not too much.



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20 Aug 2011, 2:00 am

Scandium wrote:
I'm am shy IRL, but not on forums. (actually, still slightly shy)
And I like being on the first page of a forum thread. :P


Yea, I feel like that too. But I feel like I can be shy on here sometimes, and irl as well....but then totally obnoxious sometimes.
Lol, nice.


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20 Aug 2011, 2:03 am

pree10shun wrote:
I read an article about shy people seeking attention but I don't remember it properly. I think it said shy people seek attention because they don't get attention or something. I am shy but I don't like too much of attention. I guess I can handle a little but not too much.


Do you know where that article is? Hmmmm, I like attention as long as I have planned it out and know I can do well. Like a performance after a few weeks of practice is fine...but a performance on-the-spot when I am signing drives me up the walls IF there are too many people watching. A few are fine, a whole room and I better have some type of prep.


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20 Aug 2011, 9:51 am

I do crave positive attention sometimes but my shyness tends to overrule those cravings in real life, online I have made a fool of myself in search of attention. It's not something I'm proud of.


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20 Aug 2011, 10:07 am

Having tourette's has made me get so much unwanted attention that I just hate attention. I only want someone's attention if I'm talking to them. Otherwise, I really want to be left alone.


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20 Aug 2011, 10:09 am

I tend to be shy. When I was younger, I attracted attention through activities and achievements, like performing. If I wasn't producing something, it felt like I might cease to exist. Work and art became a part of social currency. It was difficult for me to just hang out. I've settled down in this respect, but not all the way.



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20 Aug 2011, 12:35 pm

You could say I'm shy. I've had so many horrible scarring traumatizing experiences with people, in other words normal social encounters. These days I just sit in my room and when I want to talk, I go on a hunt for human life, I say my piece and retreat as quickly as possible before the emotional fireworks erupt. And they always do. People are so explosive.



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20 Aug 2011, 1:37 pm

I'm not shy. I'm indifferent to human attention.



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21 Aug 2011, 5:43 pm

I'm kind of like that. Sometimes I'm reserved and quiet and other times, particularly when I'm around certain people or in a certain 'mood' am very open and attention seeking, I guess you could say.

I definitely want more attention than I get, even posting on forums, for instance. Its kind of funny thinking about it actually. Hmm, never really grew out of a lot of the stuff commanding me as a kid.



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21 Aug 2011, 6:44 pm

I...guess, maybe?


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21 Aug 2011, 10:26 pm

chrissyrun wrote:
pree10shun wrote:
I read an article about shy people seeking attention but I don't remember it properly. I think it said shy people seek attention because they don't get attention or something. I am shy but I don't like too much of attention. I guess I can handle a little but not too much.


Do you know where that article is? Hmmmm, I like attention as long as I have planned it out and know I can do well. Like a performance after a few weeks of practice is fine...but a performance on-the-spot when I am signing drives me up the walls IF there are too many people watching. A few are fine, a whole room and I better have some type of prep.


Nop Chrissy.. sorry t'was a long time ago...



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21 Aug 2011, 11:08 pm

I would say yes. I don't talk about myself without being asked, but I do like to talk about myself when asked.



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22 Aug 2011, 1:36 am

Definitely understand it, although I don't know if I see it often outside the context of feeling left out of a conversation, or if someone is shy but lonely.



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26 Aug 2011, 6:30 am

I don't know about seeking attention, but I do like acknowledgement.