Knifey wrote:
it actually still shocks me when she makes allowances for my aspieness, because i'm not used to anybody thinking of me, understand me, and trying to make me feel comfortable without trying to change me.
I hope I can do this for my husband!! I'm NT, he's likely an undiagnosed Aspie; we dated since we were young teens (almost 30 now!) and got married a year and a half ago. Over that time, it's taken me a long time to understand how he feels in social situations and to make accommodations so that he's more comfortable to just be himself. A lot of open and respectful communication was necessary for us to get where we are today! Then, we just figured out the possibility that he's an Aspie last week, so we're looking into resources. I know he feels great to put a name to why he feels so weird; and that makes me happy, that he knows he's understood and not alone.