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If people are looking at you strangely, smile and wave. It embarasses them and lets them know that you won't let them intimidate you. Even if you are intimidated, do it anyway; they can't read your mind.

Thats the best way to be I'm proud of you and the achievements that you have achieved.

Fnord said: "If they stare, just let them burn their eyes on you. Otherwise, people who don't like being looked at would be better off not being seen in the first place."

This advice doesn't work. With predators, the burn in their eyes will soon explode into open acts of assault. There are laws against such extended conduct including staring, while a select few have the means to seek enforcement, those with the means do try for enforcement (interference with duties is typically cited, while those with the indirect means rely on stalking laws).

Who Am I said: "If people are looking at you strangely, smile and wave. It embarasses them and lets them know that you won't let them intimidate you. Even if you are intimidated, do it anyway; they can't read your mind."

This seldom works. It often aggravates attack, with the attacker then claiming that enticement incited the attack.

Fnord said: "Plus, I don't waste time whining about my condition, how the world is unfair, personal snubs, or any of the other useless topics that seem to obsess most Aspies."

Before, which technique did you use to determine which aspects of impairments from autism that were not subject to being unacceptable by the self? Since the law told me that I was obligated not to endanger the public good by engaging in activities that were made very dangerous to myself, and other individuals, by my impairments, no legal choice was available, and such had to be accepted, despite the temptation by any rugged individualistic hardscrabble nonsensical American Cowboy philosophies of life.

In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), utilization of the time to determine which aspects of impairments are best accepted as necessarily present due to reality and the limits of the medical sciences, is very important. Self-reflection to determine what must be accepted and what may be accommodated is far from "whining", "filling a pity-pot", and/or voiding all the laws and regulations against discrimination in the Social Contract. If any would-be John Wayne thinks the absence of feathers isn't going to prevent his ill attempted free flight, he's going to have an unpleasant impact with reality, and will probably be subjected to involuntary protective custody.

Fnord said: "No one can make you think or feel anything without your cooperation."

Ever hear of "brainwashing" and "subliminal manipulation"? I know from experience that assault and battery is definitely felt, as included in a "feeling". Then, something is incompatible with "If you can read this post in English, then thank a Veteran", if all contraries necessarily require "your cooperation".

Fnord said: "These are the choices: (1) Hide away where no one can see you (easy); (2) Stop letting it bother you (easier); or (3) Let others control how you feel (easiest)."

Avoidance often is not practical, nor with the desired results. Inappropriate response to the social conduct of other people is already at issue across the entire "spectrum of autism", and "absence of response" is also already an element to be corrected of the issue (the sets of social interactions again already include mutual reinforcements).

Tadzio

Tadzio, please learn how to use the quote function. Your post is difficult to follow.

But the gist of it seems to come from a limited social environment. I've lived in ghettos, on the street, in military barracks, in suburban homes, and even on board ships at sea. The truth of the matter is that people will always try to see how far they can push you, and that if you show them that their "pushing" does not matter to you, they will eventually go away.

Of course, there are those few who will be determined to make you miserable, or even kill you for no reason. That's just how it is. But that does not mean that you should cringe and cry every time someone stares at you. Stare back. Wave. Take their picture. Laugh. Do anything other than let them see that they own you through your emotions.

As for staring being illegal, please cite the actual legal code where this is stated - Sharia Law does not count, as that is an aberration on human morals.

"Here's a clue: some people enjoy making others feel uncomfortable because they know they can. Seeing someone's face go from smiles to tears is their way of "getting off". Once they know that one particular person is a cry-baby, they will zero in on that person and see just how far they can push them."

Do you like to join the others in zeroing in on that one person? People who get off from pushing other people to the edge have a freaking problem...and that one person everyone zeros in on usually cannot handle it......Yes I can admit I was that one person(not really a cry baby, I mean I guess on occasion it would get so bad I might cry but children do that.) but I was the designated target.

from my perspective there is no way to justify that kind of crap.

So it is not the looking or the glaring that really bother you, but the other actions you associate with it. That makes more sense. I still feel a small twinge of fear whenever I hear a certain noise that I associate with the beatings I used to get from my father, and it's been over 40 years since the last one. But I do not let it show - there's no sense in letting on that certain "buttons" can still be pushed, especially since my father has since died, and the fear is based only on a memory ... an old, dead memory.