Obsessed about a relationship

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04 Sep 2011, 9:59 pm

Do people on the spectrum have trouble with becoming obsessed with a relationship?
I am dating a girl sort of and I have trouble thinking of anything else other than about her/the relationship.

Any strategies for not making it the focal point of your thoughts? =/

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04 Sep 2011, 10:08 pm

yeah man, it is not fun.

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04 Sep 2011, 10:40 pm

That's what happened to me, and the result was not a pretty picture. I suggest thinking about other people and creatures you love, remembering to do your favorite things, and trying to stay independent from the person you're dating--all the things I should have done, but didn't.

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04 Sep 2011, 11:28 pm

liveandletdie wrote:

Yep...either 'too obsessed' or 'too cold' toward their partners.
I've heard of Aspies on both extremes.

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05 Sep 2011, 2:06 am

That's not aspergers.

It's a drug called infatuation

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05 Sep 2011, 9:37 am

I've gotten obsessed with lots of girls over the years.

Of course that obsession turned them right the hell off... so I ended up in a relationship with someone I wasn't obsessed with, and that confused the hell out of me for a while.

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05 Sep 2011, 10:50 am

hale_bopp wrote:

That's not aspergers.

It's a drug called infatuation

isn't infatuation short lived?

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05 Sep 2011, 2:34 pm

liveandletdie wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

That's not aspergers.

It's a drug called infatuation

isn't infatuation short lived?

Not always. 13-15 year old me will attest to this. :lol:

Although now as I am getting older, I don't get infatuated as much or for as long as I did... What a relief. :wink:

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05 Sep 2011, 2:48 pm

I'm the other way around. When i was younger after a break up I would be over the person. Now I'm stuck in infatuation.

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05 Sep 2011, 6:00 pm

i dunno...when i think of infatuation I think of it being all about visually appealing...fantasizing about their face/body etc constantly

i guess there could be the same thing for emotional sort of things....but aren't all relationship that then if you want to say that? =/

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/infatuation

any obsession that someone on the spectrum has, could be considered infatuation.....

as in the webpage they use stamp collecting as an example......

anyways seems a very imprecise word that is not accurate in describing what I have in mind.

unless you want to say all special interests are infatuations...then it might be along those lines.

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05 Sep 2011, 6:15 pm

I'm completely obsessed with my relationship & girl rite now & have been sense it started a couple months ago. I do not think it is simply infatuation because there is a lot of real substance to this. I don't know how not to have it the focal point of my thoughts but I don't think being obsessed is necessarily a bad thing. I'm a better person with her in my life because our strengths & weakness balance each other out & my relationship with her motivates me to work on improving myself to be a better person

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05 Sep 2011, 6:34 pm

nick007 wrote:

Believe me, you don't want to become too wrapped up in one person. It's great that you help each other, but try to keep some independence and find fun things outside of the relationship. Scary things can happen if you stay obsessed for too long--the scars on my arm are proof of that.

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05 Sep 2011, 6:43 pm

diniesaur wrote:

nick007 wrote:

Your absolutely rite about that. I have some nasty scars on my upper left arm from when I had a mental breakdown after things ended with my ex 7/8 years ago but I learned a lot from the experience & my relationship with Megz is motivating me to work on myself & trying to get other things going in my life so in a way my obsession is motivating me to be less obsessed

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