Do you tend to get along better with foreigners?

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04 Jun 2012, 3:42 pm

I feel I can practically be myself when around foreigners. I have a Polish friend, and he doesn't care how I act. He just finds it funny (in a nice way), and the more ''silly'' I act, the more he enjoys being around me. I can tell that he can't judge me in the same way English people do, because he doesn't notice many differences in me, and it doesn't matter if I make social faux pas because he's learning the English language and so is more worried about how he sounds than how I sound, and he's just glad to have a friend like me who understands him and is patient with him and his poor English. Also I don't know what sort of social rules they have in Poland, probably similar to what we have out here but probably altered a bit because it's a different country with a different society to how it's ran here.


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04 Jun 2012, 3:51 pm

Yeah especially ones from China Japan and Korea.


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04 Jun 2012, 5:31 pm

It's hard to say. I am American, and one of my few good friends is a German. Then again, I have met loads of other Germans whom I just despise. I typically get along well with Italians, although only my relatives really.

So no, I can't say one way or the other if I get along well with foreigners. I do find them interesting, though.



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04 Jun 2012, 7:34 pm

Hmmm... my wife is from El Salvador. My best friend in high school was from France. Maybe your on to something...



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04 Jun 2012, 7:37 pm

don't know to be honest



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07 Jun 2012, 11:08 am

Yes.


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07 Jun 2012, 11:23 pm

swbluto wrote:
I often found that I seem to more easily communicate with those who are foreigners. I wondered why this was but I don't know (Maybe it's because my life experiences are more "global" than most people's?), but I kind of wonder if it's common among aspies. If it is common for aspies, the only reason why that I can guess is that foreigners tend to be less idiomatic and more literal in their speech of the english language and so the "speech style" of foreigners and aspies would be more similar than between aspies and natives, and so aspies would tend to get along better with foreigners than natives. I'm just guessing, though. :)


I do feel that foreigners would be more inclined to help if I were, say, stranded somewhere, or needed directions. i get a friendlier response from both foreigners and people who look less well-off (of course, you can't tell for sure from a person's appearance alone). There is a certain openness and approachability with foreigners and others.....i get higher humility vibes or something, like they are familiar with adversity or strangeness. Of course, non-foreigners are also familiar with adversity but maybe something about not being a native makes people 'humble' enough to not mind being approached by a complete weirdo like myself 8O



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07 Jun 2012, 11:43 pm

I've thought about this before. I'm wondering if people who are of a different culture, age, or sex might be a good match because they don't notice the subtle cues that other people would notice. Is there such a word as "microcues"? If there isn't, then I just made it up. They don't notice the microcues that people of our own age, sex, and cultural background definitely notice.

I always feel more comfortable with someone a little different from me.



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11 Jun 2012, 10:24 pm

Yes! In Australia I used to work on farms a lot and I met lots of backpackers on working holidays with 457 visas. There were also Kiwis and Maoris from New Zealand. It felt like foreigners and I kind of gravitated towards each other. People can practice their English with you, express their frustrations and culture shock and I think with people who aren't NT they can connect with someone who is almost as much as an outsider as they are. My second longest relationship was with a German girl for nearly a year.



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11 Jun 2012, 10:31 pm

Definitely. When I meet another Pakeha, they often make many false assumptions about me since I am on their "team". They therefore feel entitled to talk to me about things that I am not necessarily interested in, and to expect me to back up their opinions that I do not necessarily share. On the other hand, when I meet someone from another culture, the "distance" between us makes it easier for me to explain who I really am and learn who they really are.



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12 Jun 2012, 4:36 am

Yes definately!

Also people younger / older than me.

And generally men rather than women (I'm female)



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15 Jun 2012, 4:36 pm

I have this feeling too. I suppose there may be two different reasons: first is culture, for example, East Asian culture is the most NT, followed by American, and German culture are less sociality-focuses (these is just my feelings). Another is a lot of Aspie problem is hard to understand cultural and social rules (and their exceptions), but in international interactions, these cultural and social rules play a much smaller role, because they expect you not to understand the cues.



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17 Jun 2012, 6:54 pm

All my closest friends were Chinese or Japanese. They are very open-minded and tolerant of differences. I never really noticed this until I saw this post. I do have more black and Hispanic friends than I do white people. It just happens to be this way (no racist intent or anything of the like - I'm white, by the way). I found white people were usually the ones in strictly striated groups (preps/jocks, stoners, goths, punks, band geeks, etc.) while ethnic minorities had less tendency to form small cliques (they are more friendly to those not like themselves: a black jock will be more likely to hang out with a geek or goth, at least in my experiences).



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18 Jun 2012, 12:30 am

wolfkouji wrote:
East Asian culture is the most NT, followed by American, and German culture are less sociality-focuses (these is just my feelings).


Actually I've seen brain studies that show Asian cultures tend to look at 'the big picture' whereas European culture favours focusing in on details first which I've always seen described as an autistic trait.



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18 Jun 2012, 4:41 am

I believe the reason that many of us gravitate towards foreigners is that in the ensuing relationship the cultural specifities of our group can become blurred. We have trouble with, and we violate the culltural specifities. Our subtle body and verbal communications are quite different, and this display of difference does not sabotage a relationship with an individual whose subtle communications are already different form our own.

Personally, I get along best with individuals from the Zeta Reticuli system.