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What do all of you think? Are these people who claim to be autistic yet also claim that they are social people, just posing as someone with autism for some reason
I'm a loner, but not by choice. That said.. I hate most people. Their flaws seem small to most others, but incredibly painful and annoying to me. I've been in the situation where someone has talked on and on and it has made me very annoyed.
But its what I talk about--and who I talk to that make the major difference. Most people that others find incredibly interesting and suave I am generally annoyed by and most people who I want to talk to--don't want to talk to me. I am misanthropic, this doesn't give me less of a need to socialize or desire human contact. I want to be heard, I want to be listened to and I want to be respected.
But I miss most social cues, i'm not "perceived" as funny or interesting until maybe later if a person gets to know me in depth. (Has only happened once or twice)
People are often responsible for their own nonsense--but the thing with many people who judge "quiet" and socially shy people is that they perceive it as our fault. It maybe something we're born wih and yet perceived by an overwhelming majority that its something that can be fixed guaranteed through effort. Even people who are close to me have thought this way, I have had one or two friends that I could have had. But even most of my friendships that i've had.. (ALL of them within the past 10 years of my life) have not been desirable on any level. Then aside for maybe 1 year, I have not had a true friend since 17.
I'd like the way the world to work is for someone to befriend you on just the one or two interests.. instead it requires small talk, personal possession, or being someone you're not to give an artifical smile every 5 minutes.