For married Aspies: Did you always expect to get married?

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I was married for a while. No kids. It fell apart.

Actually, I felt that the process of marriage was destructive in and of itself, since it "upped the ante," and caused minor differences to turn into terrifying arguments.

I felt utterly trapped. We couldn't grow apart from each other, as I normally do with people. Always was forced to give up interests and projects to come back to compromise. Also, having a massive empathy deficit made it very hard for me to focus on another person's needs.

Also, with no kids, our taxes went up. Way up. That hurt things as well.

Really, before I quit dating, I realized that I have very little interest in hanging out with anybody more than twice a week.