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07 Oct 2011, 9:32 am

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Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:



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07 Oct 2011, 9:43 am

Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
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Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.



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07 Oct 2011, 10:09 am

SadAspy wrote:
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MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


And who are you to decide whos attractive or not? "attractive" is a subjective term. We are all different and each of us has a different taste in looks. Some people unattractive to you will be attractive to other women and thus they will get girls.



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07 Oct 2011, 10:26 am

Chummy wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


And who are you to decide whos attractive or not? "attractive" is a subjective term. We are all different and each of us has a different taste in looks. Some people unattractive to you will be attractive to other women and thus they will get girls.


I guarantee you I'm not attractive to any women.

Men vary a lot in their physical preference for women....the same isn't true in reverse. Women pretty much all like the same type of guys.



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07 Oct 2011, 10:33 am

SadAspy wrote:
Chummy wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


And who are you to decide whos attractive or not? "attractive" is a subjective term. We are all different and each of us has a different taste in looks. Some people unattractive to you will be attractive to other women and thus they will get girls.


I guarantee you I'm not attractive to any women.

Men vary a lot in their physical preference for women....the same isn't true in reverse. Women pretty much all like the same type of guys.


Wow, you have no idea what you're talking about. When you are finished questioning all the women in the world regarding their taste in guys come back here and we'll talk. Until then your claims are just too silly, mate. Anyway I am not going to argue for the sake of arguing. I wish you the best of luck in life and I hope you find the right woman for you :)



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07 Oct 2011, 11:15 am

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3. Girls get jealous. So talk to other girls too. Cuz she'll see you with her, get jealous, and want you more. Sounds crazy. It works.


Sorry, that would scream "Player" and I would bail real quick & in a hurry. If it works for you, great. It wouldn't work on me. It would backfire on you.


I think he literally means talk to other girls. Not flirt, not try to score phone numbers, just chat. Remain passive to flirting from these girls rather than flirt back. This isn't player behaviour, just being social. The girl being pursued will then react in one of several different ways:
1. She'll see him as a perfect social partner. "He's a great socialiser. He'll get on great with my girlfriends."
2. She'll perceive him as more valuable, as MetalAspie states. "He's popular. I'd better make it clear I'm interested before someone else does."
3. She'll become jealous about this attention due to her own insecurities, in which case you're better off without her. That would be a miserable relationship.



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07 Oct 2011, 1:35 pm

Thom_Fuleri wrote:
verbal0rchid wrote:
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3. Girls get jealous. So talk to other girls too. Cuz she'll see you with her, get jealous, and want you more. Sounds crazy. It works.


Sorry, that would scream "Player" and I would bail real quick & in a hurry. If it works for you, great. It wouldn't work on me. It would backfire on you.


I think he literally means talk to other girls. Not flirt, not try to score phone numbers, just chat. Remain passive to flirting from these girls rather than flirt back. This isn't player behaviour, just being social. The girl being pursued will then react in one of several different ways:
1. She'll see him as a perfect social partner. "He's a great socialiser. He'll get on great with my girlfriends."
2. She'll perceive him as more valuable, as MetalAspie states. "He's popular. I'd better make it clear I'm interested before someone else does."
3. She'll become jealous about this attention due to her own insecurities, in which case you're better off without her. That would be a miserable relationship.


Exactly. You hit the nail on the head. Even though I usually do get lots of girls numbers, that's mostly just for doing friend stuff...

Either way, the more girls you talk to, the more desirable you seem to other girls.

SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


Well I'm no rock star, but I play music and I guess I have a bit of a "rock star persona" that women are attracted to...And I'm not the best looking dude in the world either. I have a goofy English Canadian smile, a bit of a beer gut and way too much body hair. But honestly, looks don't mean anything. It's more about personality and how you carry yourself.

Women are attracted to confidence more than anything. If you ask any woman what's the number 1 thing she's attracted to, she'll tell you "confidence" so if you wallow around in your own self pity all the time, and you act nervous and awkward around girls, chances are you're not going to have any luck.

You need to be Fonzie 24/7!



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07 Oct 2011, 7:28 pm

Its all right for you hairy guys with bushy eyebrows

who are at art school!



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09 Oct 2011, 3:36 pm

I got ya now, and that's cool, agreed. not player behavior. I misinterpreted it.

MetalAspie wrote:
Thom_Fuleri wrote:
verbal0rchid wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
3. Girls get jealous. So talk to other girls too. Cuz she'll see you with her, get jealous, and want you more. Sounds crazy. It works.


Sorry, that would scream "Player" and I would bail real quick & in a hurry. If it works for you, great. It wouldn't work on me. It would backfire on you.


I think he literally means talk to other girls. Not flirt, not try to score phone numbers, just chat. Remain passive to flirting from these girls rather than flirt back. This isn't player behaviour, just being social. The girl being pursued will then react in one of several different ways:
1. She'll see him as a perfect social partner. "He's a great socialiser. He'll get on great with my girlfriends."
2. She'll perceive him as more valuable, as MetalAspie states. "He's popular. I'd better make it clear I'm interested before someone else does."
3. She'll become jealous about this attention due to her own insecurities, in which case you're better off without her. That would be a miserable relationship.


Exactly. You hit the nail on the head. Even though I usually do get lots of girls numbers, that's mostly just for doing friend stuff...

Either way, the more girls you talk to, the more desirable you seem to other girls.

SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


Well I'm no rock star, but I play music and I guess I have a bit of a "rock star persona" that women are attracted to...And I'm not the best looking dude in the world either. I have a goofy English Canadian smile, a bit of a beer gut and way too much body hair. But honestly, looks don't mean anything. It's more about personality and how you carry yourself.

Women are attracted to confidence more than anything. If you ask any woman what's the number 1 thing she's attracted to, she'll tell you "confidence" so if you wallow around in your own self pity all the time, and you act nervous and awkward around girls, chances are you're not going to have any luck.

You need to be Fonzie 24/7!



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09 Oct 2011, 4:00 pm

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You wanna know how to get girls? Here are a few helpful hints from yours truly:

- Figure out what you want her for. Date? Relationship? Booty call? Once you figure that out, find a girl who matches it.

- Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you tell a girl you like her, and want to get to know her, MEAN THAT. Don't use it as a euphemism for "get in her pants". Nobody likes discovering they were led on and then used.

- DO what you say you are going to. If you say you're going to call/text/meet someone, DO IT. Don't wait 3 days, and don't make excuses. A little common courtesy goes a LONG way. If something comes up, let them know. It's not rocket science.

- DON'T flirt with a sh** ton of other girls if you are interested in ONE. Unless she's a die-hard flirt too, she'll be offended, and see your flirting as being a player only after one thing, and not being very discriminating on who you get it from either. Whether we admit it or not, women are sensitive to things like that. Hell YES, if I see a guy I like, that blows me off for some other chick, she at least had better be prettier than I, or you can bet I will be offended. It's like rubbing salt in an open wound. At the end of the day, we're girls. We're a little bit vain, even if we don't like admitting it.

- For the online folks - If you get involved with someone long distance, and communicate primarily online via social networks like Facebook, Myyearbook, etc., there are a few other tips that might help.
--- Don't tell her you're going to bed, and then stay online. She will see it when you least expect it, and bye bye potential date. That means she can't trust you for sh**, and won't continue to associate with you.
--- Don't delete posts she makes on your page/wall/whatever, because you don't want "other girls" to see it. Don't EVER tell her "I just don't want drama to start from it" - In Girl Code, that means you got somebody else you're interested in, and you don't want to run THEM off by making any open indication of interest in HER.
--- Don't hide things that other girls say to you or send you. If any of you have been on myyearbook, you know you can send things like stickers, gifts, etc. You have the option to hide them on a profile so nobody can see it. If you're talking to one girl, and suddenly you hide your friends list, stickers, or whatever - again, in Girl Code, that means we can't trust you, and we bail.

Your advice is quite good but OP´s advice about trying to show interest in other people is sadly also appliable to most females.

I do this unconsciously, I try to reciprocate other people´s feelings whenever I can and there have been times when we were drifting appart and she started talking to other males and I tried to do the same thing(found a female that wasnt creeped out by me and start spending a lot of time with her as friends), you´d be amazed by the amount of times that this girls that had started flirting with other males show interest in you as soon as you are no longer paying attention to them.

Most of my female class mates avoid me like the plague, I have an above average looking female friend, it turns out that whenever one of this girls sees me talking to my friend they suddenly know my name and start approaching me in random conversations.


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09 Oct 2011, 8:41 pm

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09 Oct 2011, 9:03 pm

Thats only funny because I'm wearing a Johnny Cash - Man In Black shirt



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09 Oct 2011, 9:42 pm

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Either way thread author has my congrats. You tried to do something about your life instead of whining on an internet forum about how women are shallow air heads and gold diggers. :P

Hell yeah. This dude rocks. He knows it and so does everyone else. Which just makes him rock even harder. It's self-fulfilling in a big way.

I'm probably a little too old and a little too taken to put his advice into practice, but if I were 20-something and single again ... totally.


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10 Oct 2011, 2:27 am

SadAspy wrote:
Grisha wrote:
MetalAspie wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
Best advice for guys wanting to get girls....

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive


Then explain to me how Lemmy does it...


Lemmy is a rock star - I would do him... :wink:


Uh yeah....celebrity examples don't prove anything. Show me an unattractive guy who isn't rich and famous who gets girls.


My ex girlfriends father :lol: