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02 Oct 2011, 5:06 pm

Does anyone else hate walking into a place like a restaurant or bar or shop to find some one. I mean when your friend or someone says shall we meet in this bar and you have to walk in to the bar and find where they are stood.

I hate doing this I would much prefer to meet someone in the car park where I can spot their car instead of searching a crowded room for a face but I think NTs find this odd dont they?

I wonder whether this is linked with me not liking looking people in the eye and to pick out the right person you have to stare at lots of peoples faces. Is there any way of getting round this?



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02 Oct 2011, 6:02 pm

I usually go to a calm spot and text them to meet me there.



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02 Oct 2011, 10:29 pm

I hate doing this because I have trouble recognizing people in a crowd unless I know them very well.

I don't have a solution though. I just try and arrive before them, so they have to look for me rather than me looking for them.


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03 Oct 2011, 12:24 pm

Dots wrote:
I just try and arrive before them, so they have to look for me rather than me looking for them.


I don't have anyone I'd have to meet so I don't have this problem. If I did have to meet someone somewhere then this is what I would do.



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03 Oct 2011, 3:29 pm

Actually I hate not finding a friend in a crowded place. Once I find the friend... well, I'm still stressed out from extended periods of not finding them, but still...



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06 Oct 2011, 4:43 pm

I hate it...I feel like everyone is watching me, or maybe the person I'm looking for hasn't arrived yet, so I'll be myself until they do.