Mate Searching Strategies for Autistic Males

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Also, some people (my past self included, "movements" such as MGTOW included) seem to believe that women can be blamed for the way they are biologically wired. No they can't, and they shouldn't have to deal with severe cognitive dissonance because they're forced to act in a way against their natural feelings (don't worry though most often they'll simply reject men who try to make them act like that though it can still cause harm for them).

Finding the right girl doesn't involve changing your whole self drasticly (you can't do that!), but if you were poorly raised (which many have been) it is definitly a good, perhaps necessary, idea to change yourself partly.

16 year olds are not adults and this forum is not for 16 year olds to post in nor access. You can create a new account with a similar name and your real age. The current one is banned.

Well, there's an autistic friend of mine (Aspie) who has problems with girls. I think that's because he's not stylish and rather timid. He always wears baggy soft clothes, but they're too baggy. He also prefers everything grey-ish. He always has hands in his hoodie's pockets. His posture isn't the best either. This way he seems too withdrawn. And women won't even notice you if you dress this way and don't show any signs of being engaged in conversations.
His other problem is low grades at Uni. He's smart but he only likes history, archeology, weapons and similar things. When the subject is irrelevant, he won't perform well academically.
I don't know if he can change this. All his problems result from being autistic. People laugh at him because he's unable to change the tone and volume of his voice, he makes remarks when nobody but him is interested, and he cannot sense if sth's wrong. What can he do? Change himself completely? Wear uncomfortable clothes of colors that are too bright for him? He's already trying very hard, I can imagine. He's always stressed.
Idk maybe there are some things that will get him a girlfriend?

Im not the best at this but i can offer you the best tip i have made so far.

1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
As any person is nt, as, etc. Know the type of personality, look, style your seeking. Kniw your dislikes(what you dont want in tour mate.

2.HAVE CONFIDENCE
have a little self confidence especially when your going to meet people. A little confidence shows in your attittude, walk, stature, and talk. you dont have to be the greatest man on earth

3. DRESS NICELY
as the old song goes " oh yah never know who your going to meet, when going down that jolly english street." Point dress a semi nice semi casual espescially weh on your way to and from work.

4.RESPECT FOR HER, AND SELF RESPECT FOR YOU this ones a paper in itself.

5.BE PREPARED FOR REJECTION, DISSAPPOINTMENT, AND WHATEVER ELSE the old saying you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince is very true. Keep trying asking

6.THE SKYS THE LIMIT ive observed and seen in rare instances where there an exception to the rule " she out of my league"
Theres sutle self defeat.

7. DO NOT PUT OUT A FAKE VIBE OR AURA.
DO NOT ACT THE PARTY ANIMAL, OR THE ALPHA MALE, THE LADIES MAN, THE STUD, THE JOCK. UNless your one of those thing dont try to fake one those. Its not real. Being true to yourself is real.

8.DONT SETTLE !
N.ts, A.s. it dont matter what type alot of men make the mistake of settling. That is they date a girl or marry a girl thinking she either the only one who will. Or the only girl who will come along. In the end they end if misrable and mope in there mistake.

Wish i had more.