Not getting heard

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I have always had troubles with social ques , talking over people on the phone, and interrupting people . But the one that always upsets me the most is when i try to join in a group conversation and try and start a sentence over and over again and it seems like no one hears me and i am invisible ... does this happen to any of you ?

This seems to be the norm for people on the spectrum. We are probably not sending the standard "listen to me talk" signals.

There's also the "how dare you say anything" reaction, like you're not allowed to interject or you did something inappropriate. Or there's some touch, signal, or look that tells you it's not time for you to talk, like you're a child or lesser being.

The fourth grade teacher once told my mother that she wished I'd join in discussions because I "have so much to give." Yeah, right.

Luckily I've been among people who value what I have to say and ask for my participation. They're far and few.

I used to get this at family gatherings, particularly when I was at that awkward age where I was too old to be considered one of the kids, but young enough that I wasn't really thought of as an "adult".

That happens to me a lot, too. It's really frustrating and I usually just give up after a while and don't speak at all. I also often have a hard time saying what I'm trying to say. Like I'll say one thing but it's not what I actually meant so say and I'll get really frustrated trying to say it differently or what I really mean. I much prefer being in a group of two to three other people. Although, one on one is my favorite. Any more than four people and I'm lost in the background, kinda forgotten.

This happens to me too, and I've never understood why. I'm nervous/hesitant to do any of the things that might solve it (talking louder, standing even more obviously in the group, etc) in case they make me seem even more inappropriate.

People ask me why I'm so quite. This is exactly why.

This happens to me a lot. I'll say something and than people talk over me. Either they do that, or they change the subject and I'm not even talking about my special interests when I'm doing that. It makes me feel like crap when that happens and I have to rehearse what I'm going to say 5 times in my head before I say it. If feels as though I've wasted my time.

This happens to me pretty much every time I'm in a group. While I can understand why (I generally tend to talk while other people are talking) it's very frustrating. Usually after awhile I just stop talking altogether. Yet another reason I avoid groups of people.

This happens to me quite a lot. I also get the "I wasn't talking to you. Stop eavesdropping" from one girl in particular, when I'm not too far from her and can hear everything she's saying without actually listening, I hear her saying stuff about me, then I'd say something back about it. Then she says what was indicated above.