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dianthus
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07 Dec 2011, 6:55 pm

the_curmudge wrote:
I've enjoyed being a loner mainly because I was never completely alone: I always had family to rely on when I needed help, protection or just a little human warmth. At this point in my life I realize that family doesn't last forever: family members die, and because I have failed to form strong relationships outside of my original family, I'll soon be completely alone for real. It's not a pleasant prospect.


This is what I've had on my mind, who's going to be there after my family is gone. I have no siblings, and don't want children so I'll be the only one left.



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07 Dec 2011, 9:18 pm

The UPs -> You get to do what you want , without consensus.
-> Asperger's completely disappears when your alone
-> You get to relax from sensory and social issues
-> You can put things into perspective
-> You learn to be independent
-> You feel the silence and harmony
-> You become very creative
-> You can break any rule
-> Your living in your own world
-> You can hyperfocus
-> You can make critical breakthroughs in self-awareness
-> Culture treats aloneness as a problem
-> You feel alot less self-conscious
-> Time to self-reflect and re-assess your path, goals and intentions
-> You sleep better
-> Stress is lowered
-> Increased memory ( Bethany Burum )
-> Self Confidence
-> People take a step back and reanalyze situations when thier alone
This is more like solitude btw..


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08 Dec 2011, 5:15 am

-You can be as whacky as you want, since there would be nobody around to care.
-You have loads of breathing space and time to reflect.
-Less anxiety issues.
-You can stim as much and for as long as you want.
-You can sing and dance to music, and listen to whatever you want
-You can be creative.
-You're often happier.
-You can buy stuff you want to buy.
-Nobody to care if you break a social rule.
-Nobody to stop you doing things in the way you like to do them.
-You can drink milk from the carton.
-You can decorate your house the way you want to decorate it.
-You can dress as whackily as you choose.
-You can spend your day just chilling out and not worrying about things.



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08 Dec 2011, 6:53 am

Ups: You can do anything you want without people moaning at you.

Downs: You get the creeps being in certain places alone.


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08 Dec 2011, 9:49 am

upside- sometimes i don't know. sometimes i do know.
downside- there is nobody else to take the edge off of the darkness.