A simple question....

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At what point did calling someone "weird" become acceptable behavior? I've never known of it to be acceptable, by any standard rules of society. Yeah, people do it anyway, but that doesn't automatically make it "acceptable."

I sure as hell don't put up with it from anyone. Close friends who know me very well being the only exceptions only because I know they don't mean anything bad by it.

I take weird as a compliment. I call people weird all the time and they don't mind it.

I think it's weird when you go to the supermarket and people buy one head of lettuce and 5 apples and that lasts them and their family all week.



Though as a vegan I would say that I was at my local fruit shop recently and the owner said that's a lot of fruit and veg and I said yes should last me and my Mom about a week, he said you must be veg no vegan in fact, and here I thought vegos (thank you MLA) where meant to be unhealthy .

Unbelievable.

It's that way because social rules are stupid and screwed up. Because to NT's being called "fat" is way more offensive than being called "weird". How many NT's are "weird NT's", anyway? People say they have empathy... except when it comes to "invisible" disorders. To many uninformed NT's all Asperger Syndrome is is another fad diagnosis. Like ADHD.

Just because neurotypicals do it, doesn't mean it's acceptable. Don't put yourself down by thinking another person can be bad and you can't. When a neurotypical comes up to you and says you're weird, they are being nasty.

Its quite normal to be called these sorts of names at school, because children, even teenagers, are still socially immature and so haven't quite learnt yet which is socially acceptable and which is not. When I was at school, I had a really fat girl in my class, other kids used to call her fat all the time, and she used to get upset a lot but then she seemed to have grew a thick skin and really did not care, and so they all stopped calling her names about her size.

When you get into adulthood, you won't be called these names so much, and the only people who will are probably pretty nasty people, who are breaking the social rules. So, remember, neurotypicals aren't social experts. So the next time you see a social rule broken, don't think 'oh just because a neurotypical said it, it must be right.'

People are all different.

The idea that NT's can put themselves into another persons perspective is ...bs. Empathy? Yeah right. I'm confused about that one too. TOM seems to be some construct that children with autism don't get that people don't know what they know. That's all. My daughter frequently shows this. It's a delay. Eventually she'll get more developed in TOM probably. I'm really confused on empathy, because I know darned well that people don't really have a clue what someone else is feeling. There is the nonverbal component of language that is 70% of communication, but words so frequently don't match the nonverbal communication anyway that the words are next to useless. Then if I respond to vibes instead of words, they don't want to admit it. And then there's the honesty part. My dil's father is dying miserably. It will be a blessing when he's gone. Everyone, including her knows it. Is it ok to say it? Oh, say to commiserate that he's still here? No. of course not.