Jamesy wrote:
SylviaLynn do you agree though that its always.........
"the problem is people will always think "i feel sorry for the parents and family" instead of "i feel sorry for the person who has a mental disorder" its like just because we have a mental health problem makes us somewhow "evil" and the enemy.
I don't know what people always think. Often they don't see or understand the disability at all. They just see the behavior and not the cause. I am sorry for the way your family is treating you. They shouldn't be expressing their concerns that way. It's hurtful and probably not at all helpful. Of course you're not evil or the enemy. Chances are high that your family does love you.
Whether or not an outsider would shout at you like that would depend on the outsider. People in a position to actually give you some help are not likely to shout at you since they know, or at least can understand, what problems you have. They are more objective. Your brother and uncle are not likely to be objective because they are concerned not only about you, but also about your father.
My motivation in talking to you like this is not that I feel sorry for your parents and your family, but rather so that you can know that there are options for you. A lot of times people don't grow because they don't know how and don't know where to get help. I certainly don't think you're evil. I've worked with lots of adults with various mental and cognitive disabilities.
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Aspie 176/200 NT 34/200 Very likely an Aspie
AQ 41
Not diagnosed, but the shoe fits
10 yo dd on the spectrum