Would you date someone you are not physically attracted to?

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14 Dec 2011, 12:36 am

Say you get along on every other aspect but are not attracted to someone. will you still go out with them?



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14 Dec 2011, 12:38 am

Short answer? No.



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14 Dec 2011, 12:46 am

HELL YEAH if she's willing to go out with me. I do NOT get attraction at & it's completely irreverent to me. I like women after I know em a while & they treat me with respect


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14 Dec 2011, 12:48 am

I have, more than once, and it never really worked. I've since learned that, shallow as it may be, I have definite upper limits for both age and weight and that I should respect those preferences. It also depends on just how unattractive you find the person. If it's a question of "meh", I usually go ahead and end up finding all kinds of beautiful things to love about that person after we get involved, and then my perception of them changes. But if they are really, truly physically unappealing, be honest with yourself about that and realize it probably won't change.



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14 Dec 2011, 12:53 am

No I probably wouldn't.



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14 Dec 2011, 1:06 am

deconstruction wrote:
Short answer? No.


Pretty much this.


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14 Dec 2011, 1:10 am

lostmyself wrote:
Say you get along on every other aspect but are not attracted to someone. will you still go out with them?



Hell No!



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14 Dec 2011, 1:12 am

NO.

That's called a "friend".



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14 Dec 2011, 1:16 am

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Say you get along on every other aspect but are not attracted to someone. will you still go out with them?

No. For me, attraction is to dating, what music is to dance.

I have friends to get along with on the other aspects.



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14 Dec 2011, 1:17 am

I'm not sure what differentiates attraction from getting along well with someone.
I guess looks has something to do with it for many people, but being asexual, I have no frame of reference.


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14 Dec 2011, 1:21 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:
I'm not sure what differentiates attraction from getting along well with someone.


Physical attraction I mean.



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14 Dec 2011, 1:30 am

i tried in the past.... it didnt end well so no



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14 Dec 2011, 1:47 am

No.I am someone who is very content with solitude and my interests .I don't desire many of the things that people want to get into relationships for such as having a family or full time companionship.Of course ,I desire a romantic relationship ,almost everyone on the planet does,but I would rather be alone than to date someone I wasn't physically attracted to .It's not really an issue for me as I find many types of women attractive but my social awkwardness usually becomes a huge stumbling block for me .



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14 Dec 2011, 1:49 am

lostmyself wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
I'm not sure what differentiates attraction from getting along well with someone.


Physical attraction I mean.


Right. It's beyond me. So I guess by definition my answer is "yes".


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14 Dec 2011, 2:17 am

No, but consider the fact that everyone considers different things when it comes to attraction. You might find a girl gorgeous, but a friend may find her completely unattractive because of their tastes. So No, I wouldn't date someone "I" didn't find attractive, but my taste might be different than other guys. Superficiality on comes heavily intoplay for a guy who only dates girls with huge breasts, or a girl who won't date a guy unless he has a six-pack.



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14 Dec 2011, 2:34 am

I do have appearance standards, but they're low. If she's not someone who'd catch my eye for her beauty, I could still find her attractive if I fall in love with her. Love tends to enhance a woman's beauty in my eyes. But if she's someone who strikes me as ugly, I would not go out with her. For me, that would probably be if she has as much armpit or leg hair as me, or has a beard. That's much more repulsive to me than any amount of fat, acne or lack of breasts.


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