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26 Dec 2011, 10:31 am

So my friend sent me a Christmas card that asked a lot of questions. I sent him a Facebook message to answer them. One of the questions involved something I was not capable of due to AS. I told him this and why it wouldn't work. I sent him this message 6 days ago and have not received a reply. What does this mean? Why hasn't he replied? Is there something I should send to him to make sure he got the message? Is there a way I can ask him for a reply? My NT spouse says I just have to wait. I can't stand waiting. I don't understand why he hasn't responded. I can't see how it would take more than 6 days to reply, especially since he has been online multiple times since then. I'm worried I over shared information and that is why he is not responding. Ugh! I hate situations like this. What do I do?



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26 Dec 2011, 10:34 am

Anything you do except waiting will not make things better and may make things worse. Your choice though.

What were the questions he asked?



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26 Dec 2011, 10:42 am

He wanted to get together with me and my spouse. He wanted to know if we should get together in his state or mine, what would work best, etc. I told him that it would work better here because traveling is too overstimulating for me. I went into a lot of detail on why his state wouldn't work. Looking at it now he basically asked me one question and I wrote 4 paragraphs in response. It seemed right at the time, but now it seems a bit much. Maybe I scared him off?



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26 Dec 2011, 12:12 pm

facebook as turned off the message alert facility
we no longer recieve emails about new message recieved
earlier people were used to getting email
he might have not checked the message box
i guess you should wait it out
patience always pays
or just buzz him and ask him whether he recieved your message
i hate this mind games though and i prefer avoiding it altogether



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26 Dec 2011, 7:05 pm

namaste wrote:
facebook as turned off the message alert facility
we no longer recieve emails about new message recieved
earlier people were used to getting email
he might have not checked the message box
i guess you should wait it out
patience always pays
or just buzz him and ask him whether he recieved your message
i hate this mind games though and i prefer avoiding it altogether


Namaste, thank you. It turned out he hadn't looked at his message box. I didn't realize facebook no longer messaged you.