Are/were you ever mistaken for the other gender?

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I'm female but pre-puberty I was regularly mistaken for a boy. This was partly because I wore boys clothes, partly because my name can apply to either gender, partly because I had a short haircut, and partly because of my monotonous voice. It wasn't just kids teasing me; grown-ups outright asked me, "are you a boy or a girl?"
After puberty, growing my hair, and learning to choose more "gender appropriate" clothing I never get mistaken for male anymore - except when I'm on the phone. One thing that has stayed the same is my voice. Even my relatives can't tell me apart from my brothers, and strangers think I'm my parents' son. When that happens I don't even bother to pull them up on it because I imagine they would be more embarrassed than me.

I've never been mistaken for the opposite gender in real life, but on the internet I frequently get people thinking I'm male.

Nope, never. I have quite a standard generic male style though.

I'm 5'6", skinny, used to be a lot skinnier when I was younger. So, even in my late 20s, I might be standing in line in a cafeteria and the server says "Ma'am"

I have nasal speech. Two possible causes. Two dentist told me that my uvula (thing that hangs down in back of throat) larger than average.

And secondly, I had a lot of allergies as a kid and something I've heard called 'deaf speech' makes sense. That's where a person needs to feel the movement of air because they don't hear as well.

I am sometimes viewed as gay. I think sometimes even as a flamer. I think my speech is miles away from any stereotypical quote-unquote "gay speech." One guy said I sounded like a damn Frenchman. That's more like it. Or maybe a New Yorker or Bostonian.

I don't happen to be gay. I am in favor of full and equal rights for lesbian, gay, transgendered, and bisexual persons, including the right to marry as an individual choice.

I think I would object to the cheap stereotyping even if I was gay. It shows the very limited number of categories some people operate with. And how some people are against anything different in any way (their loss)

At work I am frequently called "Sir". It is just presumed that if I am near a box or in the vicinity of doing laborious work than I must be a boy I don't look like a boy.

Mostly no.
But pre-puberty, a few times other kids had asked me if I was a boy or a girl.
Then after puberty, I grew some shoulders, my voice got deep and developed a strong 5 o'clock shadow, I'm unmistakably male now.

Yes, when I was 14. I had my hair tied back, with a baseball cap on, and a thick coat what made my breasts less visible, and I went into a pharmacy with my mum because she wanted to ask if there was anything for my brother's acne. When she asked, the stupid man at the desk looked closer towards my face and said, ''where abouts is it?'', and I didn't say anything because I was so embarrassed, and my mum said, ''no, this is my daughter.''

He was foreign, so I'll let him off. Besides, my mum told me that when she was 11 she put on a cap and put her hair up in it so you couldn't see it and went out to play with her brother and 2 of his friends who she hadn't seen before, and they both literally thought she was a boy, and because she was a tomboy she just played along and was proud of it!

I was about 15, I had short hair and someone who was drunk thought I was a boy lol

I think some well-known actresses have deeper than average voices which is viewed as appealing.

It happened on a few occasions until I was 20 or so. Maybe even after that. Even though I could dress in a feminine style and sometimes wore a bit of makeup, I preferred jeans and more androgynous attire. At that point, I was tall, thin and far from endowed. My hair was long. Looking at old photos, I can now see that I was an attractive young woman. I was just far away from the cute, perky ideal that surrounded me.

All the time when I was younger but not now. Between being a tomboy and having a monotone voice I was regularly mistaken for a boy. Embarrassed my mother more than it did me.

No. No one in their right mind would mistake me for a woman. My appearance is very masculine.

Pretty rarely. I'm 6'0" with wide shoulders and small waist (well, less small now that I'm fatter than I used to be).

I did have a scarf/muffler for a while that was apparently more 'fruity' looking to others than it seemed to me. That, long hair (down to the waist), and being bundled up for winter weather lead to a few people being freaked out when I spoke to them (of course, I didn't realize it until 3 days later, lol). I'm also half-asian so subtle facial structure probably also played a part.