Fellow women do you sometimes feel self conscious about self

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Even though I had people say to me you look a beauty. I still feel ugly as I feel like my face is round.

Women or men if your reading this do you ever feel self conscious about your self. This feeling is normal as many say don't be afraid to answer

And if you have advice for other to feel good about them selves please tell

I have learned something about being self conscious. It is a selfish pursuit. It makes people around you uncomfortable. AND it is a waste of time.

It is selfish because you are only thinking of yourself and not thinking of how someone else is feeling (maybe they are feeling the same thing) This is an opportunity to make someone else feel good. Just like we enjoy an honest compliment , so do others.

It makes others uncomfortable because they want to get to know the real you and not the one your self consciousness allows them to see. Others know they have to bring you out of your shell to make you comfortable and not everyone can do that. Especially given the time constraints when first meeting someone.

It is a waste of time because you are who you are at that moment. As long as you work on your faults you can get better gradually but for now, this is it. Why should you waste time on worrying about how you look or sound as long as you are doing the best you can to be polite, that's all anyone can ask of you. Why waste your time worrying about yourself? You are missing all the things that are going on around you. Believe me, there are so many others who are doing the same things, they won't even notice what you think they are.

One more thing. Most IMPORTANT... If you don't like yourself...no one else is going to... the best way to learn how to like yourself is to laugh and acknowledge your faults, it is for these faults that people will love you. They make their own seem ok.... isn't this how you feel when someone can laugh at themselves?

Believe me, I wish I had learned these things at your age....and THANK YOU for the compliment. See...feels good doesn't it? LOL

ohhhh one more beauty tip The BEST thing you can do to look and FEEL beautiful is to make sure after all the makeup and clothes are put on...look in the mirror and make sure you have a SMILE!! Everyone who smiles is attractive. Even the fattest, homeliest, wrinkliest people are actually attractive when they smile.

Or as my sister always told me, "Smile, everyone will want to know what you are up to."

I like your sister's quote, Cinbad.

Lady-ivy, I always remind myself that the things I find interesting and beautiful in other people usually end up being the things that make them unique or different

Your face is round OP?! I'm really not seeing it at all. Remember what I said. There's nothing wrong with your face - you look stunning, girl.

I am self-conscious but then I have much more reason to be.

It is quite normal for young females to feel self-conscious, especially if one is not very confident, doesn't have many friends, and has poor self-esteem. I am a perfect example. I always feel that people are laughing at me, staring at me, noticing something's not right about me (even though I can cover up my AS), and I just feel that I am being constantly watched and everything I do is being ''written down'' in people's heads, as though everybody's my personal inspector. Rationally I know this isn't true, and I've been told many times that people probably aren't even noticing me, but I can't seem to stop these paranoid thoughts. When I hear people laughing, I automatically think that they're laughing at me, and then I start worrying that I might have something on my back or in my hair.

I also worry that I look quaint. I am slim, and average height and average weight for my height, so I'm not out of proportion. But I look in the mirror, and compared to other women, I think that there's something not right about my neck. It looks stooped all the time, no matter how much I hold my shoulders up. I can't seem to adjust my neck at all. And also I always worry about the way my neck connects with my head, because in photos my neck looks the same width as my head, whereas most other women look like their neck is more smaller than their head. With me it looks like one straight line from the bottom of my neck to the top of my head, and I keep thinking it makes me look quaint. I'm fed up with myself - why can't I just look normal like other people?! !! I'm just born to be an outcast, physically and mentally.

Cinbad, that is awesome advice.

I hate the way I look. I am not at all attractive. I look quirky, like a clown, and that tends to make people attracted to me. I would love to just be pretty or even hot. It will never happen though.

I don't care for how I look either. I got 50 pounds of ugly I need to get rid of before I can start looking remotely attractive and my face breaks out no matter what I do. I can't buy clothes without trying them on and I sometimes end up crying in the fitting room because of how my body looks in comparison to how I want it to look. If having low self-esteem is selfish, than I'm one of the most selfish people on this board. >.<