Brianruns10 wrote:
I made the suggested modifications, as much as I am loathe to remove the info about my AS status. I feel every moment of every day I'm lying, that no one can ever know me, and it fills me with a terrible loneliness.
This is the default state for most relationships. You're not lying, just drip-feeding information on a need-to-know basis. I didn't tell my partner about my Aspergers until we'd met a few times and I felt the time was right. If you mention it up front, you're an aspie called Brian. That becomes your primary defining characteristic. If you wait until you find a relationship that seems to be working, you're a young man called Brian who has Aspergers. It may sound like the same thing - hell, it is the same thing - but humans don't think rationally. The first impression is very important and will decide which box you get filed in.
I "lie" every day to my work colleagues, who don't have a clue I'm autistic. It's not something they need to know, and it could very possibly disturb my working relationships if I told them (especially after five years!). So I don't. If they asked me directly, I'd probably admit it. I won't volunteer that information.