Belushi87 wrote:
My mom has been telling me that when they retire their going to move to our summer property full time and that I should move up there with them, despite what I have in the town I am now. They were telling me that they rather have me live with them instead of moving out on my own because they think I can’t do it. That I can’t afford it. But I told her that I don’t care. I rather get shot then live with them. I don’t want to be a 40 year old living in my parents’ basement.
Do you know how embarrassing it to say that I live with my parents?
I get checks from the government every month and if I plan it right I can live on that and by then I’ll have a job to fill in the missing pieces.
Well, either you can or you can't. You'll never find out unless you try. If you fail, you can probably still go and live with your parents. Ugh! I know.
Without ever meeting your mother, I'd say she's just worried like all moms worry. It's biological and there is no cure. Be nice and try to understand where she's coming from. She probably knows how much you want to live on your own but she also knows she has to deal with reality. It is what it is right now, not what you plan on it being.
You have to admit, she's been the one who raised you from birth. She probably knows better than anyone else what you can and can't deal with. That's not saying mothers are never wrong, but they do know things - mostly things we'd like them to forget.
Three years ago, I would have told you my youngest son was bordering on idiocy. I didn't want to think about the direction he was heading and the extremely crummy choices he was making for his life. Then he joined the Army and today he is a man to be reckoned with. He blossomed. People do that. Some do it later in life than others and some need help - maybe you have to get fed up enough with the way things are to motivate yourself to make the necessary changes - or join a club/church/job/cause that will do the motivating for you.
I wish you success.
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