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funeralxempire
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funeralxempire
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Joined: 27 Oct 2014
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Location: Right over your left shoulder
I just don't understand it, and thought maybe someone would be able to help here. So far, WP has been good, but I do honestly find myself hitting "Cancel" rather than "Submit" most of the time. Some part of me is afraid the same thing will play out here. So I suppose I'm posting in this thread in the hopes of figuring out "how to be" on a forum, because I don't seem to know, and I don't want this forum to go that way. Just once, I'd like to have a group of people I can be comfortable with, and it seems like it may be more likely here, but I'm still afraid of falling into the same pits. Anyway, thanks for reading if you did.
I know that feeling well. When I contribute to a discussion, often it doesn't matter if I'm on topic, if I'm arguing well, if I've introduced new facts, views or ideas, or even if I've provided the verifiably correct answer to a very simple question. The discussion just continues as if I was never there. That's IRL as well as online; with NT as well as AS people. I'd count it a victory if one of my ideas was accepted even unattributed!
I have figured out the perfect murder: I just need to say to someone, "Hey, don't step out in front of that bus." They'll then only consider whether to simply step out in front of it or to hurl themselves screaming onto the tarmac- not stepping out will no longer be concievable.
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dragonsanddemons
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I can say I like you, and am happy to see you back.
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Yet in my new wildness and freedom I almost welcome the bitterness of alienage. For although nepenthe has calmed me, I know always that I am an outsider; a stranger in this century and among those who are still men.
-H. P. Lovecraft, "The Outsider"
dragonsanddemons
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I just don't understand it, and thought maybe someone would be able to help here. So far, WP has been good, but I do honestly find myself hitting "Cancel" rather than "Submit" most of the time. Some part of me is afraid the same thing will play out here. So I suppose I'm posting in this thread in the hopes of figuring out "how to be" on a forum, because I don't seem to know, and I don't want this forum to go that way. Just once, I'd like to have a group of people I can be comfortable with, and it seems like it may be more likely here, but I'm still afraid of falling into the same pits. Anyway, thanks for reading if you did.
I know that feeling well. When I contribute to a discussion, often it doesn't matter if I'm on topic, if I'm arguing well, if I've introduced new facts, views or ideas, or even if I've provided the verifiably correct answer to a very simple question. The discussion just continues as if I was never there. That's IRL as well as online; with NT as well as AS people. I'd count it a victory if one of my ideas was accepted even unattributed!
I have figured out the perfect murder: I just need to say to someone, "Hey, don't step out in front of that bus." They'll then only consider whether to simply step out in front of it or to hurl themselves screaming onto the tarmac- not stepping out will no longer be concievable.
I relate very much. I call it “social invisibility,” people don’t run into. e or try to sit in a chair I’m sitting in or anything, but otherwise it’s just like I’m not even there. Also both IRL and online for me, with both NT and ND people. If more than one other person is present IRL, poof, I vanish. Online, often I’m unacknowledged even if I’m the only one who replies to something. I’m just, well, invisible.
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Yet in my new wildness and freedom I almost welcome the bitterness of alienage. For although nepenthe has calmed me, I know always that I am an outsider; a stranger in this century and among those who are still men.
-H. P. Lovecraft, "The Outsider"
funeralxempire
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I just don't understand it, and thought maybe someone would be able to help here. So far, WP has been good, but I do honestly find myself hitting "Cancel" rather than "Submit" most of the time. Some part of me is afraid the same thing will play out here. So I suppose I'm posting in this thread in the hopes of figuring out "how to be" on a forum, because I don't seem to know, and I don't want this forum to go that way. Just once, I'd like to have a group of people I can be comfortable with, and it seems like it may be more likely here, but I'm still afraid of falling into the same pits. Anyway, thanks for reading if you did.
I know that feeling well. When I contribute to a discussion, often it doesn't matter if I'm on topic, if I'm arguing well, if I've introduced new facts, views or ideas, or even if I've provided the verifiably correct answer to a very simple question. The discussion just continues as if I was never there. That's IRL as well as online; with NT as well as AS people. I'd count it a victory if one of my ideas was accepted even unattributed!
This strikes a chord with me too.
Once I was alone in a room reading. Someone popped her head into the room, said “no one in here” and turned the light off.
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funeralxempire
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OutsideView
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That made me laugh
You inspired me to make a thread asking if anyone else was a fan of "Hellraiser" but then I didn't dare because I thought no one would reply!
I totally get the in real life thing too. I could be talking to someone and someone else will walk over and suddenly I'm out of the conversation with no idea how to get back in. I have had people literally just walk into me in the street like I'm not even there.
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