Saying the wrong thing and being snapped at
Earlier this evening, I was at my campus bookstore. I was looking at something electronic and noticed a woman standing near one of the register desks where the electronics are sold. At first I thought maybe she was a store clerk who was expert in things like selling laptops or computers. So, I proceeded to look at a nook and mind my own business. It was then that she approached me by asking, "This probably is a silly question but I was wondering if you had any benedryl?" I thought she had somehow gotten the idea that I may have been one of the store clerks. I responded by saying," I don't work here so I couldn't tell you." She replied with an escalating "Well I am having an allergic reaction right now and so I needed to have some benedryl." She then stormed off as if I had put her on offense for saying the wrong thing. I politely responded by saying, "I didn't mean to be rude ma'am." She ignored what I said then went to ask other people.
Did I say the wrong answer to her? If I did, that was my bad.
Bun, same here and so I can't judge the girl too badly. However, in my mind, I felt like she was being manipulative by trying to make me feel bad for her as if she were the center of attention. After she walked away, this girl went off and asked some other people in line and they told her "No," which caused her to leave the store.
I took the initiative to tell a few clerks in the store about her just in case she may have been a panhandler or something. To me, anyone in their right mind would have explained to me in a more calm manner. When she acted like that, it blind sided me.
They explained to me that they were out of benedryl and were looking for some in the first aid kit. I told them to keep an eye out on her behavior and what she looked like.
Last edited by Summer_Twilight on 30 Jan 2012, 11:00 pm, edited 1 time in total.
I think 'manipulative' is probably the right word as well, there is a certain type of people who take advantage of someone else's reaction for their own histrionics. You were right in telling someone else about it.
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I would say she was either really having a bad reaction and getting frantic, or being a drama queen (which is the same as saying she's being manipulative of your emotions).
Did I say the wrong answer to her? If I did, that was my bad.
Neah, you didn't say anything wrong. It's most likely she was very frustrated and she wasn't snapping at you.
Did I say the wrong answer to her? If I did, that was my bad.
Why are Aspies so DAMNED worried what a complete stranger thinks of them?! !! Who cares if she even dropped dead from her allergic reaction! What ever happened to just simply saying, "Sorry, but I don't work here. Go ask the store clerk for it. " Sheeesh......My husband is the same way!! It annoys the heck out of me! He worries about whether he offended someone that he'll NEVER see again! Yet, when he's pissed at me - his wife of 20 years - he throws up things in my face that were resolved a long time ago AND brings up all my weaknesses to hurt me with - after I told them to him in trust! I feel like punching his head in sometimes...or just kicking the s**t out of him when he does that.
Why are Aspies so DAMNED worried what a complete stranger thinks of them?! !! Who cares if she even dropped dead from her allergic reaction! What ever happened to just simply saying, "Sorry, but I don't work here. Go ask the store clerk for it. " Sheeesh......My husband is the same way!! It annoys the heck out of me! He worries about whether he offended someone that he'll NEVER see again! Yet, when he's pissed at me - his wife of 20 years - he throws up things in my face that were resolved a long time ago AND brings up all my weaknesses to hurt me with - after I told them to him in trust! I feel like punching his head in sometimes...or just kicking the sh** out of him when he does that.
Similar reason most NTs care what people think, to answer your question. Also, Aspies are trying to master social niceties and they use the reactions of others to figure out if they did something right. If it's someone you know well, you tend to be more complacent with it. Also, if there's someone you're angry with, then (for the most part) anger naturally causes you to do something you wouldn't normally do in a better state of mind.
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Beers, that is exactly what I thought when she acted like that. I mean, I looked at her and heard her voice and she didn't sound like she had anything wrong. This maybe even more far fetched but could it also be possible that she may have had hypothyroidism. (Where people think they are sick when they really aren't.) Otherwise, I will stick to my other theory.
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