Grisha wrote:
Unlike sympathy and compassion, empathy is a skill, not a virtue - a skill which, by definition, many people on the spectrum are poor at.
This got me wondering whether empathy is a prerequisite for compassion or the other way around.
Empathy can lead to compassion but you can also have compassion for something out of self interest, and not be empathizing with it fully. Sometimes I'm not sure if I lack empathy or if I'm really losing interest in who I'm dating.
izzeme wrote:
i use my (aspie) eye for detail and change for empathy; once i know a person better, i have established some kind of 'behavorial baseline', if i then see them behaving differently, i know something is wrong, and i use a combination of memory of such changes (in the same or other persons) and the direct question "anything wrong?" to figure out what is actually the matter, after which i can use my training in showing emotions to force visible empathy.
no, i do not fake it, i do feel empathy for my friends, all i have to force is the outward appearance of it.
Good advice.