Ford302 wrote:
Eharmony= lots of nice but very plain or unattractive and/or obese women. Met 4 women 4-5 years ago. Not attracted to any of them. I was on a total of about 18 months. I won't go back again.
Match= not quite as bad as eharmony but didn't get a single date. Very very few messages. I was on about 15 months.
POF= since about March. I think 99.99% of all the good looking women got married before they were 30 and the rest have either never married or have married/divorced and gained 100 or more pounds. I think a lot of women's looks go away between ages 40 and 45. I can't kiss or marry a woman I'm not attracted to. I have gotten very few messages from women that don't interest me and that is it.
Okcupid= about 2 months now. More messages from more women I'm not attracted to and/or they are obese. Obesity in women is a HUGE turn off to me (no pun intended).
I'm not really sure what I see that is worse: dealing with the IRS, getting my teeth drilled, or trying to end this state of being single and lonely.
You need to move to a different city. Chicago is not that far from you. In MN, you are going to get nothing but obese women, too many guys competing for the few who are not obese. Even if you land one, you will be lucky if she isn't trouble. Makes me wonder why the obese ones don't just stop being obese. I know there was a discussion about that subject in another thread, but I don't accept that it's "too hard" unless the person has a gland issue. Things are not "too hard" when someone gives a s**t. I have had very little luck with online dating outside NY, Toronto and Chicago. I'm sure there are cities in California with a decent selection as well. Edit: Also Washington, DC.
At your age, perhaps the most prudent thing to do would actually be to join one of those Anastasia Russian bride "trips". No, I'm serious. They need a guy without the Russian baggage and you need a woman without the American baggage. Match made in heaven.