Jealousy

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All that said, man, I HATE feeling jealous (thankfully I have little reason to experience it in my current relationship). It's such a nasty feeling

Yes, you are right, I did not articulate my opinion very well. The thing that I find difficult to understand is why people act upon their jealousy. If an emotion appears in your mind, you observe it, assess it, and then act upon the information you have gathered about it. Sometimes it's good to act upon the an emotion (for example, in certain situations it may be helpful, either to yourself or in interaction with others, to be angry, sad, etc.), and sometimes it's bad - however, from what I can tell, very few people, if any, like the feeling of being jealous, so if the feeling appears, why would anyone not want to deal with it him-/herself instead of acting upon it?

It is as if they want to be jealous (instead of figuring out what's going on inside them), and that is the part that doesn't make sense.

Because they don't recognise it and control it. The same can be said with infatuation, anger, pride and any other emotion available.

They don't want to be be jealous. They don't LIKE feeing jealous. They LIKE the positive gratification they get from their jealous act. They - at the time - do whatever jealous thing because it temperarily makes them feel better. That's why they do it. They get some sort of positive gratification, no matter how short lasting from the act.

Someone has a nice car. Person walks past and experiences jealousy. Person keys said car, because for a split second they feel better that they're depriving someone of something fantastic that they will never be able to have. It isn't logical, and half the time people wish they didn't do it.

You have to realise most people don't address every tiny happening in their life consciously with logic. They just do what their body wants.

That's an example of envy, not jealousy.

This might be a test. If you don't act a little jealous and possessive, you fail because apparently you don't love her enough. If you act too jealous and overprotective, you fail too. (I've been in an online relationship in Second Life with someone who loved to play mind games like that).

Are you sure?

I thought jealousy was doing things to spite others, where as envy was just well, envying them, and not acting out the spite. I'm going to have to look these up in multiple dictionaries.

I thought it was this:

Envy is when you want something that somebody else has.
Jealosy is when you want to have what somebody else has, but you don't want them to have it.

Online dating is different though...

I've never felt jealousy. I think my tendency to be apathetic towards other's prevents me from being emotionally involved enough to get jealous.

From Wikipedia (if that's even a source):

Who wrote that?

I'll look in the old collins.

Err, it's Wikipedia, everyone is the author.

I've felt jealous before but never in a relationship. I think my ex had issues with jealousy because he always called this one neighborhood up on the hill a place where snobs lived because all the homes up there were nice and Mcmansions and he was so negative about my parents and how they raised me. When someone is so negative about something and feels the need to put those people down for it, that is a sign of jealousy.

I also bet people are not always aware they are jealous despite what they are feeling but they may not realize it's jealousy they are feeling.


Speaking of dictionary terms of jealousy and envy. Here:

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/jealous

jeal·ous
   [jel-uhs] Show IPA
adjective
1.
feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages (often followed by of ): He was jealous of his rich brother.
2.
feeling resentment because of another's success, advantage, etc. (often followed by of ): He was jealous of his brother's wealth.
3.
characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment: a jealous rage; jealous intrigues.
4.
inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims: a jealous husband.
5.
solicitous or vigilant in maintaining or guarding something: The American people are jealous of their freedom.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/envy

en·vy
   [en-vee] Show IPA noun, plural -vies, verb, -vied, -vy·ing.
noun
1.
a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc.
2.
an object of envious feeling: Her intelligence made her the envy of her classmates.
3.
Obsolete . ill will.
verb (used with object)
4.
to regard with envy; be envious of: He envies her the position she has achieved in her profession.



Take your pick for that car situation.

I'll stick with jealousy.

The keying is a manifestation of that resentment.

I'm done hijacking this thread now, as you were.

Ok, guys, thanks for clarification and an interesting discussion!! ! I must say that I am starting to consider myself to be pretty lucky, that jealousy is an emotion unknown by me.

No, what that is, is awesome.

Why is keying someone's car awesome?