Might be spending the night with GF...

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So my girlfriend has invited me to accompany her to a friend's birthday party. Given that the party is fairly late at night, she's suggested that I could spend the night at her place, and I've accepted.

Please bear in mind that I've only been going out with her for roughly three and a half months, and I'm still a virgin. As you can imagine, I'm feeling kind of apprehensive about this. It's not that I'm not a little excited by the prospect, but all the same I feel nervous, and I'm not quite sure why. Anyone have any advice to give on...well, why I might be so nervous, or how to make the most of this night (without possibly negatively impacting my relationship with her, that is)?

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I think that to be honest you have to take things at your own pace. Try explaining that you are inexperienced rather than a virgin, it's likely that it may be mocked at the party so talk when you are back at hers.
Don't assume she does want to have sex just because you are sleeping at her place, it could just be a kind offer.

Use the term inexperienced instead of virgin.

After you have sex with her it won't matter anymore because you would no longer be a virgin ;p

I'd say you two will be having sex.
My advice is don't get too drunk!

You've been going out 3 months with no action I think she's already aware that your inexperienced. Nothings wrong with being prepared so pick up some protection. I agree with not getting too drunk, unless you don't care how it goes down.

As far as advice or an explanation on why you might be nervous, I think it's just that you're human. Most people would be a little nervous in this type of situation. Even though it probably sounds impossible, I think the advice to try not to worry too much and just follow her lead is the best thing to do, provided you like this girl and are comfortable with the idea of sleeping with her.

For what it's worth, I agree you should be prepared with protection and doubt many women would ask someone they've been seeing for a few months to spend the night at their place without realizing they were sending a message. I mean, if it's not really "her place," per se, and she still lives with her parents, then it might be presumed you'll be sleeping on the couch or something. Otherwise, I think she realized signals she was giving you and is at least open to seeing where things might lead.

And, even if it doesn't go as well as you might want, it's not the end of the world. If you guys really care about each other and are meant to stay together, an awkward first time should not be a deal-breaker. And, if for some reason things don't work out between the two of you later on, you'll have gained some experience for the next time.

Make sure you have condoms. Don't drink too much. Good luck.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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@Blueroses: I think you actually have the right of it. She still lives at home, and she hasn't hinted at anything other than just me staying over the night.

All the same, thank you all for your input. I will try to bring protection, but in turn, I'll be keeping in mind that I don't want to rush anything. She knows I'm inexperienced, so I think she'll be very understanding on the matter.