Reading body language - good website

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Hey guys,

I don't get on here regularly but I found a site by accident the other day, changingminds.org. It's about how to persuade people in business/sales...but it has a great section on what different body languages mean, and a section on speech. I suck at understanding subtle social cues and I've found it really helpful.

Cad

thank you Cad, for that useful info

Thanks, it has a lot of useful info. Does anyone else know of any other useful sites for learning/understanding body language?

Now if only I can actually pay attention to these things when interacting with people.....typically listening to what people are saying and responding along with all the other things going on in my mind and the stimming I typically do sometimes without realizing it keeps my brain pretty busy leaving little energy for noticing much body language, attempting to make eye contact, or trying to look like I am making eye contact without actually making eye contact.

Direct Link: Changing Minds Body Language

They should use photos.

Luska - I agree it'd make it more helpful. I do like it when they describe parts in detail on the site though e.g. someone is acting 'dominant' if they have their arms folded and stand with feet apart (which is how I usually stand because I never know what to do with my arms, and my legs are naturally like that...but now I can see that people may think I'm trying to be intimidating...)

Sweetleaf - I just read some of the basics e.g. what people do when they're being aggressive and can apply them because usually if people are talking about boring things (e.g. what happened at work today, what's on TV) I don't pay attention to what they're saying. What happens is I usually just watch how they move (I find hand movements interesting) and listen to what their voice sounds like or think about other things, which isn't because I'm ignorant but I can't help it...I just switch off if I'm not interested. With people I know or like I don't have to think about their body language to understand what they're conveying to me, because if I don't understand them I know them well enough to ask and my friends don't care if I specifically say 'are you angry/sad/happy' (btw 90% of my friends don't know I have AS but most think I'm odd)

The eye contact thing though...I hear you. Usually I just don't make it, simple. A trick I use if I'm outside is to wear sunglasses constantly that way no one knows where I'm looking (also my eyes are very sensitive to light). Otherwise they will notice my eyes darting all over the damn place and then people ask me if I'm nervous.

MarketAndChurch - I found it helped more from the point of view that I know what body language NOT to do so NTs won't think I'm being intimidating or aggressive or nervous (strange because I'm physically not very intimidating at all).

Thanks for the link

Once I got a pair f sunnies I couldn't live without them.

http://www.social-engineer.org/ I use this site for social help. It's tricky to master but turns conversation into a quantifiable science which, if most people on this site are like me, should be incredibly interesting and useful. I'd heavily recommend buying their book too.