How do aspie aspie males show interest in a girl?

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If there's a girl I'm interested in, I'll always try to befriend her. I know I put myself endangered of being "friend-zoned" but that's the only way I can show a girl I like her and that's the only way I can socialize with a girl. I could never ask out strangers, I'm definitely not a guy who shouts out compliments at girls. I always make it known how much I respect them as a person and would never do anything to make them feel uncomfortable. I think for any aspergers guy, if he is your friend and enjoys your presence, chances are he likes you but won't be able to admit it.
I know from experience as there's a girl I like very much but because she's six years older than me, my chances of dating her aren't good but my feelings for her will not change, I still secretly wish we could be together. I sometimes wonder myself if she has any idea how I really feel about her.

Wait, what? That doesn't even make sense. Not a joke to me.

How normal guys show interest in a girl:




How male aspies show interest in a girl:

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Same as any other male: actions or words.

What those look like? Probably a lot more subtle than an NT male. "Hey you are hot. Can I have your number?" Probably not that.

Give this guy a gold medal.

She mistakes his ignorance as affection...

Sorry, I only accept diamonds.

I want to be like smudge.

I don't see how it is possible to draw this conclusion with the information provided. While it is possible that the man in question is uninterested, there is nothing to suggest that this is definitely the case. I suspect that GlendaGoodWitch knows the situation a good deal better than the rest of us here and is just looking for examples of how Aspie men show interest in women so as to be better able to assess the situation.

From what Glenda describes, it seems to me that it would be worth pursuing. What's the worst that could happen? Some disappointment perhaps, but isn't that better than not trying at all?

It's possible that he fantasizes about her, but that it's nothing that's going to turn into a real relationship. It's absurd that social ineptness can be attractive to a woman.

As someone who was in that exact situation 2 years ago, there are women who find other things attractive in a person .

Almost literally anything can be attractive to people. How would you feel if a woman fancied you at first sight because you look like Charlie Brooker and she finds that sort of face attractive? And then what if she got to know you and liked your personality? You seem quite personable and well-dressed in real life.

What a charmer! V. Negative outlook. Define perfection, then rationalize how am imperfect person shouldn't be cared for, liked or loved. I assure you, there is no perfect person.

I am only trying to assess my situation as suggested. There is no need for mockery or cruelty. Life handles that all on it's very own.

The neutral face is the "like someone" face?

My word.....

They pick up the phone and ring 0055 6969 Lonely

I'm having flash backs of Seinfeld (The pig man one)