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29 Oct 2006, 4:40 am

There have been several threads about stims, but I think we might be missing an important aspect here. I know for sure that my autistic daughter is picking the hair of people she likes a lot.

Another example is autistics "hoarding". I've seen myself when 5-6 children with ASD/ADHD related conditions pack in a small bed. This also seems like an interpersonal stim.

Does anybody else do some stims in relation to other people?



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29 Oct 2006, 7:24 am

What do you mean in relation to other people, things you do to others?
I talk a lot, and i mean continuously when i'm out with my parents, they find it extremely annoying. But i can't seem to go out unless i do it, it keeps me occupied and gives me something to focus on. That count?



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29 Oct 2006, 8:09 am

Is drawing "shapes" (don't know how else to put it really) in the air with my feet a stim? I've been doing that compulsively since I can remember (and rarely notice that I'm doing it)

Not that it applies to other people... only if I end up kicking them by accident.



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29 Oct 2006, 8:57 am

I realize this is new and hard to observe. I haven't thought about this possibility either until I tested the new stim-quiz that will be part of the next Aspie-quiz. When I were going to answer one of the questions I realized the answer simply wasn't there, and that it should be "When I like somebody". It was the question about picking other people's hair.

I wonder if "personal space" might be related to this issue? Can personal space be related to the feelings toward somebody? It is claimed that autistics sometimes come too close and sometimes are to distant.



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29 Oct 2006, 9:58 am

I think you have a point. I know that in busy shops, or in general, when i feel threatened i will move closer to my mum and move away from other inbdividuals.
I think that personal space is very important, ever been on a crowded bus, train etc?



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29 Oct 2006, 1:02 pm

When my family went on long road tripps,I would sit in back seat and comb my parents hair.It was the only physical contact I had with them.I dont remember whose "idea" this was.I liked the combing but their hair didnt smell good to me.(Hate the smell of hair oil and hairspray).I think, I did it to make them happy.I use to give boyfriends back rubs or "pet" their skin lightly.I believe this was tactile enjoyment for me.I have had a life long "fur fetish" and am very drawn to petting any thing soft and fuzzy.I can pet animals for hours.


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29 Oct 2006, 1:21 pm

My son likes to go through my hair - it is very calming for him. Sometimes he even pets my hair like I'm the cat and he laughs if I meow. If he is tired he will sit next to me and start going through my hair or covering his face with it. My daughter (MR) used to twirl my hair when she was little - now she twirls her own hair.



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29 Oct 2006, 4:30 pm

I have some more now, after a little thought.

1. Holding hands. Our daughter does this in less secure situations. She only does it with people she trust and doesn't like to shake hands or hold hands with strangers.

2. Sitting in people's lap, even if she is 12 years old. Same as above, only in less secure situations and only with people she likes abd trust.

3. Licking or just putting her face on my shoulder. Same situations as above.